Please help me calm down - 5 year old sudden aggression

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School has told us that for the last two weeks or so DS has been very aggressive at school. Today he bit someone! This is out of character and he doesn't behave violently at home. I have been under the weather quite a lot for the last two weeks, so DS has been keft to his own devices at but more than usual and he has watched telly as wel played with his tablet more. He has also started watching power rangers, as he is moving away from cbeebies. He has had trouble with constipation, which by his own admission makes him misbehave, but this morning he had a poo before school, so that didn't have anything to do with the biting incident.

I have tried to connecting with him to find out why he is misbehaving, but I can't really get anything out of him. He does not seem sorry and will not promise not to bite again. I am very down now. I often think that I should never have had him anyway, so I feel like the worst parent imaginable. DS can be demanding on the best of days so I often worry about how we are perceived. I'm sure he is now seen as the devil child and we're seen as shit parents. Please help me calm down, as I can't stop crying and I know that doesn't help at all. I am so angry and depressed!

Sorry for the typos. I'm on the tablet, so keep hitting the wrong keys..

My DCs are grown up but when I look back I wish I had been more cheerful around them and let them believe I loved their company (instead I was a harassed busy mum).
I wonder if you are a bit depressed and DS is picking up that something is wrong but he won't know what or why.
I now believe that the best thing a DC can have is a happy mum (though my adult DCs are fine even though I wasn't a bundle of laughs!).

Sorry, not meaning the above as a criticism of you, more just a suggestion, his behavior sounds pretty normal. Lots of DCs bite. Let's hope he doesn't do it again.

I know what you mean. I have been on atidepressants for most of DS's life and I do struggle from time to time. Niw I also have something physically wrong with me, which I'll get investigated on Fri. It is exactly something like this that starts my self flagellating. I know I have done a lot of things wrong, but simply do not havethe energy to entertain him all the time. I can't make myself be happy, though I should try. Feel miserable.

Try speaking to your GP about your depression.
I would 'fake it until you make it' with DC, try to be upbeat. Don't expect to have the energy to entertain a 5 year old all the time, you're asking too much of yourself. Can you find some little game he enjoys for 20 mins or so. No parent is perfect, we just muddle through.

Yes, I will try to be upbeat. GP knows about my depression and I am on medication. I'm generally fine (have been for a fairly long time) but something small like an illness or another negative thing can easily tip me into despair.

DS's attitude stinks right now and I'm struggling not to take it personally and as a sign of my failure as a mum.

I would try posting in Education or somewhere with more traffic and you might get some more useful advice.
It could be anything affecting your DS's behavior, most likely something at school/ nursery. Don't assume it's you. Just keep pasting a smile on your face and he'll probably grow passed it a week or so. Best of luck, kids can be exhausting.