My 4 year old hits girls!!!!

[analisa]

He has had it in for the daughter of a friend for over a year. Have spoken to preschool 3 times. No issue at preschool. it happens at social events. He gets punished... i.e. taken away immediately. The girls mother confronted me yesterday... Shouting and insulting my son. I'm aFraid the friendship is over... But the issue of hitting little girls remains. I can't get to the bottom of it. Help!!!!

have you asked him why?

I would also wonder why? is he retaliating or just doesn't like her?

However if it was my child that kept being hit I wouldn't be happy and probably would have stopped meeting up a while ago as its obvious they don't get on...

Can I just clarify? Your DS has an issue with one other child and hits her? The fact that she is a girl is neither here nor there, although it does sound like you should avoid the other family for a while. Or leave the setting immediately he starts to get aggressive.
Or do you mean he hits lots of other children who are all girls. Or do you mean it is OK if he hits boys but not girls?

I have asked him why and he can't give me a proper reason. It also happens with his cousin who he loves. I think with her it's her bossiness that makes him lash out. He's very clever, has a fantastic use of language and is s lovable and sensitive child. I don't really want to take him to a therapist but I am really concerned... For other children but also for him.