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10 month old not pointing

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Countryside14 · 07/03/2015 12:13

My DD is 10 months now. I was just wondering when your DCS started pointing and showing you what they wanted. My dd babbles a but but not a lot yet. I hope it will come in time. She's VERY active and has been for 2/3 months now. Crawls very fast. Climbs the whole staircase, get on to the sofa all unassisted. Pulls up and stands for a long time. And can walk with her walker. She's been clapping and waving for a few weeks now but no pontong. As she can't talk or babble she just shouts when she wants something I think, or crawls to whatever she's got her eye on. I shouldn't compare but I do and I worry a lot about her.

Does anyone think I should be concerned. Everything I read stears towards autisum so it makes me worry.

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albertcampionscat · 07/03/2015 13:12

Completely normal. Please don't worry.

confusedandemployed · 07/03/2015 13:14

DD never really pointed. She is now two and a proper little smartarse very bright little girl.

husbanddoestheironing · 07/03/2015 13:14

Mine both just yelled until I guessed what they wanted Grin

BertieBotts · 07/03/2015 13:18

I don't think they normally point or talk at 10 months do they? Confused

Don't worry about it. And why is everybody obsessed with this idea that their (in this case not even yet a toddler) might have autism?

If she's not doing either of those things at two, then worry. For now just enjoy your perfect(ly normal) baby.

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Countryside14 · 07/03/2015 19:07

I think I just because when you try and get info on a baby that isn't doing something it always brings that up then your mind wonders. Well mine does anyway. I know all a babies go at those own rate but usually I think they are more vocal at this age. She's defo not quiet on fact she's always making some sort of noise but not dada dada bababa sounds yet.

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Countryside14 · 07/03/2015 19:20

Cannot type on this phone!

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BertieBotts · 07/03/2015 19:26

Well yes if you google "baby not XXXX" then you're going to get scaremongering sites :)

Try googling "Baby development X months" instead?

DS did not babble at 10 months. He can speak two languages now and never shuts up ever.

BertieBotts · 07/03/2015 19:26

He even talks in his sleep Hmm

ragged · 07/03/2015 19:27

I think 18 months is the threshold to raise a red flag for autism. Don't worry until then.
DS pointed at 16 months, is a holy PITA but not autistic.

jaybirdsinginginthedeadofnight · 07/03/2015 19:32

DS (18 months) has only started pointing recently and only if we ask him 'where's the .......' Or ask him to point out something in a book, otherwise he's not a big pointer, DD wasn't big on pointing either can't remember when she started but was definitely after 18months, so please don't worry, in isolation it's not a big deal Smile

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Countryside14 · 07/03/2015 19:37

What does PITA mean (sorry)

Thank you everyone. You've made me feel much happier x

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Noyournotallowedthat1 · 07/03/2015 19:42

My ds1 can point and says dada baba etc just general babbling but can't climb stairs or onto sofa (may be slightly too high though lol) so that shows every baby is different, I wouldn't worry! Grin

PITA = pain in the arse

CoodleMoodle · 07/03/2015 19:47

We saw the HV for the 10-12 month check last month and she asked about pointing. I said DD wasn't really doing it yet. Three days later she started and now, at nearly 1, she doesn't stop pointing Grin She doesn't crawl, or roll really, and can't/won't feed herself. She does however chat all day long, and walks holding hands.

They get there in their own sweet time, prioritising what interests them!

Christelle2207 · 07/03/2015 19:49

Your baby sounds normal. Mine didn't point at all at that age but now does it a lot, at 18m.

Thegreatunslept · 07/03/2015 19:55

My ds wasn't pointing at his 1 year check up. He started pointing at about 18months and now at 22months just takes me by the hand to which ever cupboard he wants into! Nothing to worry about at all!

TheDetective · 07/03/2015 20:11

I had the same concern around 10 months.

In the end, he didn't point until 2 yrs 3 months! (It was 2 weeks ago!)

And no autism.

I stressed over this a lot.

One day, he was sat in his high chair screaming for something. After 30 seconds of me getting it wrong, he turned, and pointed straight at what he wanted (ninky nonk that was sitting on the window ledge!). He couldn't say ninky nonk, so in the end he had to point! 2 weeks later he calls it nonk Grin so I think he's coming on nicely now. :)

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Countryside14 · 07/03/2015 20:44

Thank you everyone. She's a very strong willed baby. She's so busy all day long exploring everything around her. I think she focus's more on movement than learning to talk. She's never been a good napper and still doesn't sleep through at nights. She ever sits still long enough for me to point at things to show her what it is, she's too busy going to look at things herself.

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purpleme12 · 07/03/2015 20:52

Mine didn't point til 12 months.

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Countryside14 · 09/03/2015 08:07

Should she be bringing me toys and other things that interest her?

When I point she doesn't really follow it. I have to say a few times look at daddy and she will althogh I'm not sure she's still even following my point.

I wish I didn't worry so much. It's like I'm reviewing her everyday :(

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BertieBotts · 09/03/2015 08:36

I really think pointing is something quite abstract. She's just a baby :) she's not going to magically understand that when you make this weird shape with your hand she's supposed to look at something, don't worry.

DS' first word was "look", at about 14 months. I remember he didn't point until ages after that, it was really confusing because I had to pick everything up. "The cup? The teddy? The book?"

And no, she doesn't understand that you are a separate person yet, so she wouldn't show you things because she thinks that you know everything that she knows. You wouldn't show something to your left hand just because you'd touched it with your right.

She sounds curious and interested and alert which are all fantastic things. Try not to worry about what she should be doing, and instead let her show you what she is doing. I bet that is much more interesting anyway.

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Countryside14 · 09/03/2015 08:48

Awwww thank you. She just explores everything around her and she always seems to her whatever it is she wants. I feel like she's too young to do all these thing but everywhere I read say she's not. It's confusing. I worry way too much i always have but since having her I worry soooooo much.

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GotToBeInItToWinIt · 09/03/2015 09:28

I've no idea when DD started pointing. Didn't actually know it was a milestone! She does it now at 16 months (and fetches things you ask for, very useful trick Wink) but I'm 99% sure she didn't start doing it until after a year old. She was also very active and climbs everything, I think she thinks she's a mountain goat!

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Countryside14 · 09/03/2015 09:35

I suppose 10 months is young even though that's what all the milestone checks say. She defo gets my attention is she's upset with something buy crying or crawling up to my legs I thinkita her way if asking to be picked up. It's amazing how different babies of the same age can be.

Maybe she's just independant and likes to do her own thing?

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cartoonsaveme · 09/03/2015 16:34

Maybe she just doesn't want to point