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sanchia85 · 03/03/2015 21:12

hi my little boy turns 4 on saturday and i really feel like i have no control. he wont do anything i say but ive found things to be a lot worse when hes tired. i have no family support and am a single mum. when he has these huge meltdowns i try to explain that hes just tired and that its ok to be tired but i think maybe he doesnt know how to deal with it. could i be right? does anyone have any advice? we see the paediatrician every 6 months but they useless

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MrsTawdry · 03/03/2015 21:29

Is he in nursery or preschool? Have they said anything? Why are you seeing the paed so regularly?

fizzycolagurlie · 04/03/2015 03:00

I found 4 was a challenging age with my DS (now 8). I was told that there are particular times when they get a surge in testosterone - 4 is one of them - and the consequences mean they can be quite stubborn, difficult, etc.

It will pass, which you may need to remind yourself. And its an old saying but also "pick your battles" so as to reduce the feeling of conflict with him.

What else - maybe he needs to go to bed earlier? Does he still take a nap? Looking at practical stuff like the schedule he is on, if it needs adapting, that kind of thing can often help too.

He sounds like a strong little character!

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sanchia85 · 04/03/2015 10:30

we see the paed for his behaviour coz its been going on since he was about 18 months old he had silent reflux as a baby but grew out of it at 12months. ive been a single parent since he was 6 months old. he is a very strong character hes never still needs to be stimulated all the time. hes in preschool and they said he wont do as hes told and have seen him have a bad episode of behaviour one night when i went to pick him up. he goes to bed about 7:30 and sleeps well but gets up early. ive cut out naps coz he was stayin up til 10pm n still gettin up at 6. he does get tired a lot but i dont know why

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MrsTawdry · 04/03/2015 12:49

How is his language? How is his diet? Does he eat many processed foods? Things like cakes from boxes, biscuits, cereals with added sugar? I found that my DDs behaviour improved HUGELY when I cut out all processed foods...and no sweets at all apart from on Fridays.

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