Dummy and 2.9 yr old....

[Millionprammiles]

Dd decided out of the blue yesterday she wanted a bed instead of a cot, a duvet instead of a sleep bag and that 'dummies were for babies'.
So we took the side of her cot off, put a duvet on and took the dummies away (with lots of praise and a little pressie etc).

And of course she was up several times last night asking for the dummy :( Stupidly I thought because it was her idea she would be fine with it as she has teddies/comforter which she clutches all night.
She seemed fine with the bed/duvet and has been saying how much she likes both.

Now not sure whether its too much change in one go. Original plan was to get rid of the dummies on her third birthday in exchange for a Wendy house. She only has the dummies at night time for sleeping. No speech or teeth problems.

Had a look at previous threads and just don't know what to do. Dp thinks we should let her drop the dummy later on at 3 as originally planned. She's only just starting to understand reward charts etc.
I'm leaning towards sticking with it for a week. I keep thinking about potty training (we tried it at 2.3, compete disaster. At 2.5 dd decided herself she wanted to use the potty having seen others at nursery and never looked back).

Dp thinks its cruel to take her comfort away and I'm starting to feel like the mean one :(

did she go all night without her dummy? If so I would be tempted to try without again tonight she probably won't be as bad and you might have already done the hardest part it would be a shame to have to do it again.

Our DS never had, and never wanted, a dummy; he had his fingers, and a satin corner of his blanket.

So I certainly don't think you are the least bit 'cruel' or 'mean'; children grow up, and start to move on.

Thanks both. We're sticking with it so will see how it goes....

We made DS give his up at 2. He was very verbal and had lots of warning before hand. Also used only for sleeps. First night cried 90 minutes while we held him and woke up several times needing a pat. Night 2 was restless for 10 mins and woke up twice. I slept in his room btw for those two nights. Night 3 went to sleep and slept through. Night 4 and 5 the same. On day 6 a big toy train arrived from the 'binkies' as he called them for saying bye bye to them. Stick with it. They soon forget and the shape of their mouth changes and it is no longer as appetising.

My son gave his up when he was ready.. He just didn't seem interested in it anymore.. About your daughters age..
Maybe see how she goes, it wouldn't be the end of the world though if you give it her back though - just include it less and less in the bedtime routine and one night she'll go to sleep without it.

But hopefully she's settled without one :)

Sooo...not a peep last night. Can't believe it, I kept expecting to hear a wail...
Am sure it won't be plain sailing every night but glad we stuck with it. Dd's comforter is getting chewed to pieces though