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Daddy's girl

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geegeesmum · 24/04/2004 17:24

Hi

Does anybody else out there have a dd who prefers her dad ? DD has just turned 1 and in the last month has developed a HUGE crush on her dad ...if he is in the room i just don't exist....if he's not in the room she plays with me etc but i still dont get the cuddles and kisses she reserves for him !!!! If he leaves the room and comes back in its all smiles and cuddles - not so for me - its like she takes me for granted even tho i am desperate for cuddles too. the books all say it should be the other way around and i was just wondering if i am the only mum out there who has this situation - starting to get paranoid and losing confidence in my own relationship with her and jealous altho am trying to hide it ....not very successful tho'. BTW last week I went back to work 4 dpw and am away from home overnight 2-3 nights a week - so I thought that she might shift her afections back to me or at least miss me terribly ...as i missed her ! but not a chance she has hardly clocked that i have been away !!!! Am trying to see this as a positive thing i.e. she is obv happy with the childcare arrangement (grandparents) and has a strong relationship with her dad and is secure - BUT I sometimes wich she would show just a little more affection to me too! Any advice ??? Am I trying too hard...is this a phase or must i just be happy she has bonded with dh and accept second place ?

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Evita · 24/04/2004 20:47

geegeesmum, there's loads of other threads on this subject if you check down the list a bit. I think you'll find loads of moms in the same boat!

My dd's now 18 months and her affections have shifted a few times. First it was all me, then all daddy, then me again, currently she's in a daddy mode. I'm not sure why it happens as we more or less share her care. I think generally though it's the 'novelty' parent that gets the most attention, i.e. the one who's around the least.

PokemonStorey · 25/04/2004 13:05

Geegeesmum - I started a thread about this very subject as my ds favours his father etc etc. Check out my thread under "my dh controls my relationship with my ds". I have received HEAPS of support on this one. I know how it feels - TRUST ME I know it hurts.

yamamoto · 25/04/2004 18:44

Our 20 month old dd will not even look at her mum at the moment..! As shes the coolest kid on the block I dont mind but she also wakes at least once a night so its not all roses.. Our older two dd6, ds5 have both gone thro this phase and it seems to last 6-12 months. From a Dads point of view I have to say its great!

motherinferior · 25/04/2004 19:09

I started a thread called 'Her heart belongs to Daddy, dammit...' big hugs and commiserations!

katierocket · 25/04/2004 19:13

here you go - a recent thread plus link to the one mi mentions

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geegeesmum · 25/04/2004 19:25

Thanks everyone i'll look thru the other threads - feel a million times better knowing its not just me ! Is this phase yet another one of mother natures wierd jokes and yet more proof that fathers/men have it much easier - no 24 hr labour...no (not as many) broken nights sore nipples, flabby tummies (well not from childbirth at least) etc etc . Hope i'm not offending any men out there but am feeling annoyed with dh at the moment due to the overwhelming adoration he is getting from dd.

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