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Those terrible two's!

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superbabysmummy · 20/02/2015 15:58

So DD is a terrible 2! I'm finding it really hard at the moment as it seems to be low lows and not very many highs! Please tell me there is light at the end if the tunnel and my permanent headache will go? Was I like this as a child?

Sure it's something to do with when she goes to the grandparents; she comes back with the devil in her and tantrums ensue! Spoilt?

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ppeatfruit · 21/02/2015 15:34

It maybe that they feed her 'rubbish' . Or just that she's tired and hungry.

You do know that it's a developmental stage too don't you? I speak as an ex CM|nanny E.Y. teacher and mum of 3.

Your DD is beginning to show a personality of her own. You wouldn't want her to be a little dolly in a corner (well I wouldn't !).

There are ways to get them to do what you want without her realising it. Number 1. Choose your battles
2. Try not to always say no.
3. Make up games with her. .e.g. pretend her teddy or whatever is tired or whatever. Make him 'talk' to her. In a funny voice 'like a bear'.

ppeatfruit · 21/02/2015 15:35

She's only 2 she's a baby remember!!

thatsn0tmyname · 21/02/2015 15:36

The three's are worse (sorry). Are the grandparents giving her loads of sugar?

bigfam · 21/02/2015 15:53

I agree with pp. My now 3 year old (the actual antichrist) was a brilliant 2 year old. I regularly watch vids on my phone of her being adorable not 12 months ago and can't figure out what happened.
Sorry to be a downer, but hey maybe U'll have the opposite, terrible 2's then fantastic 3's! X

ppeatfruit · 21/02/2015 15:57

I don't know what I did (well I did do what I suggested upthread) oh and I LISTENED to them , treated them like humans not dolls, but I didn't find that with any of mine 2s or 3s or my mindees were particularly difficult. The teenage years were not easy but on the whole I found if I didn't expect perfection, we all got on fine.

There's a good book called "How to Talk so Children will listen" Or something like that which is very helpful.

SolasEile · 21/02/2015 16:00

I'm in the terrible 2s / lovely 3s camp. My DS was a holy living nightmare from about 18 months to 2.9 years. Since turning 3 he has been so much better. Still very emotional in his personality and gets frustrated easily but he is very articulate now and much better about calming himself down.

A lot of it is to do with frustration at that age and tiredness is the worst aggravator of tantrums. Is your DD doing s lot at her GPs, getting overtired maybe? Also transitions were the hardest thing for my DS, going from home to preschool etc.

ppeatfruit · 21/02/2015 16:11

Yes SolasElle They forget that they've learned to talk when they're tired and hungry or are told 'No' too much, and maybe can't express themselves reasonably.. S'normal IMO and E

GingerDoodle · 21/02/2015 17:42

Mine is 2.5 and i get where you are coming from. TBH I doubt it anything you are really doing - its a developmental stage that is bloomin hard work. I listen to her plenty, play games and pick my battles but still have meltdowns most days!

My DD is utterly fried by the time the grandparents leave sometimes - simply as they constantly interact with her and she gets now personal down time.

Other triggers are:

Jelly sweets and some lolly - sends her loopy
Lemonade - makes her hyper
Tiredness - meltdowns can be epic
Wanting her own way and not getting it (could be anything lol)

Currently reading the 123 Magic which is good for managing my emotions is nothing else and is showing some effect.

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superbabysmummy · 23/02/2015 21:03

Thanks everyone. The sugar thing makes sense, I've asked a lot for the GP's to be mindful of her diet but that seems to fall on deaf ears! They of course know best!

Tiredness too, she's always exhausted. You are right though I do want for her to have a personality of her own, not be a 'dolly' in the corner.

I can see it is all frustration for independence. The majority of her meltdowns are due to not being allowed to do something I deem unsafe or that she's not ready to do on her own.

I am however very good at letting her have as much independence as I can safely afford her. I always try not to say no and go out if my way to enable her to do something than my do it for her and I also do pick my battles. Combined to her piers she is independent and quite forward. I would image however that my parents say no a lot, I do wonder if that and the sugar combined is why we have bad days after she's been there (which is sadly 2 days a week as I work!).

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ppeatfruit · 24/02/2015 10:10

superbabys Is she constipated? if she is it could be an intolerance to wheat (I always feel tired if I eat it and dh gets bad tempered too). We eat rye bread from Waitrose and ryvitas etc.

So your in laws would understand if you mentioned you're cutting down on sugar and wheat for her health!

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