Ages and sibling bickering

[littleraysofsunshine]

What are your little ones age gaps? All three of mine are 19m apart. (4,2, and 1) the girls have always been close. But some days they are so alike but on different development stages they just bicker! Constant.

Like today.

How old are your little ones? I know thy all have times like this. Which age gaps have you found more peaceful

I have a 7 yo boy and 14month boy so I have no worries bout that baby could jump on my oldest head an he would still think he best thing since slice bread. Trying for another hope next one and my 14mth gets on and no jealousy. My 3.5yo sd get on with my 14 mth little jealousy but nothing out of ordinary to be expected

My three are all 2 yrs apart, I think like any family dynamics, it fluctuates. When DS was a baby and DD1 was 4 she totally adored him (and loathed DD2, who was 2 - the jealousy was almost unbearable), So DD1 and DS, 4 yrs apart were brilliant together until DS was maybe about 3 ish and DD1 was 7 ish, then she became sick to death of him coming into her room and messing with her stuff. Around the same time DD1 and DD2 started to become really really close. DD2 has also always been very tight with DS. Now they are 10, 8, 6. DD1 is very close to DD2, but also DD1 likes doing her own thing, so not always available for DD2. DD2 now as ever is fantastic playmate with DS, but will drop him like a hot brick if DD1 shows signs of wanting to do stuff with her. DD1 and DS still bicker a lot, but at other (less common) times can be totally lovely together, particularly if DD2 is not around and they are thrown together a bit more.

So it would seem on the surface from our experience that the 2 yr gap works best as DD2 gets on best with sibling 2 yrs up and down, but in truth I think it's nothing to do with age. DS and and DD1 have fiery explosive personalities, whereas DD2 is calm and even tempered and so where DD1 and DS set each other off, DD2 has a knack of keeping them both on an even keel.

16, 14, 11

Still at it (particularly the younger two, who are having a simultaneous puberty, so a 2-3 year 'boy then girl' gap might just be storing up hormone-fuelled trouble for later).

My 7 yo DD and her 24 yo brother fought and argued all the way home on a 3 hour car journey recently. I was tempted to put them both out.

Mine are 18, 16, and 13.
28months between first 2
34 months between 2nd two.
3 school yrs between each of them

It does change over time, tbh. My oldest and youngest have got on best, for most of the time (5yrs, 3m between them) as the oldest two fought for years, but when they got to 14 and 16 they started getting on well and tend to gang up on the youngest.

The bickering reallly only stops when they live apart though.

Little ray, buckle yourself in, grab a and enjoy the ride you've a fuckinglong way to go yet. My DC's (13,11,7) all bicker relentlessly, there is however the very occasional ray of sunshine when they adore each other. when we take them to the scottish highlands so they only have each other

Two that are 5 and 6 (about 18 mths apart) Could start a fight in an empty room. Every toy is a potential flash point and every choice can end up being a carefully negotiated settlement. They do love eachother though.

On a similar note does anyone have any advice on how to encourage sharing while also respecting others property?

Oooooh thinking that too. As I have three under just aged 4

6 year old girl, 5 year old boy (less than a year gap) 3 year old girl 3 week old girl. Lol.
My 3 (excluding the little angel) argue CONSTANTLY, but I have noticed that it's mainly between my son (5) and his younger sister (3) if they play alone with their older sister there's much less screaming crying smacking 'muuuum did this _ said that' but when I say constant, I mean literally.