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Embarassing moment at nursery 4yo kicked me and didn't want to come with me

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Marylebond · 18/02/2015 20:15

I have had the most embarassing moment so far when I picked up my son from nursery today, he is 4 years old, he hide his face on his top looked sad and said I don't want to go with this one (meaning me), and kicked me. He has been to full time nursery since he was 9 months old.
I don't know what the problem is, Possible issues: he could be jealous, he has a 8 months old sister, I was carrying the baby on the baby bjorn when entered his class. Onother possibility, he is angry with me because I am more strict with him than my husband is with him. My son generally has a bad behaviour, ( I guess quite common at his age), doesn't want to go to bed, doesn't want to sit on the chair when eating, doesn't want to get dressed in the mornings or undressed at night, he doesn't want to eat what is on the table, ... ( im not too sure, if it is really common), but very often he doesn't want to cooperate and we do time out if needed.
In addition to all the above, my husband is now often travelling for work, which means he is not around as much, when I was pregnant or the baby was younger my son and my husband would play a lot together more than me. As I wasn't feeling well or busy with little baby. So maybe it is a combination of all the above, but any advice on what to do would be great!

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bobinks · 18/02/2015 22:23

He sounds like a fairly typical 4yo boy (i have one!) - expressing his frustrations and testing the boundaries with those he loves and trusts. Every parent has these 'oh my word, let the ground swallow me up NOW' moments at nursery so don't linger on that. It is really hard, but try to make some of the things you list fun for him even though it takes time and effort and I'm sure you are tired and busy with baby. Make dressing a game (pretend to put trousers on over his head, socks on hands, giggle about it together, etc). Pretending to race to eat breakfast so he can finish first, lots of high fives, that sort of thing. There is nothing wrong with being strict on important things, teaching him that kicking is not acceptable, for example, but let him express his feelings too and ask him why he feels upset. Try not to make everything a battle with him and enjoy his company - I reckon he will respond, as what 4yo doesn't want to have a bit of fun with their mum?!

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