Help!! 15 month old DD works herself up SOOOO quickly

[Taler]

It's ridiculous!!! It can be the slightest thing! If she's in that kinda mood and you do something she doesn't like she'll cry hard! But it's not this that is the problem as I of course realise all toddlers want their own way and don't like the word "no".

The problem is that within seconds she can work herself up so much that she then starts coughing, then struggles to catch her breath and sometimes can result in her vomitting!

Earlier today my DH took my iPhone away from her when he put her in her highchair for lunch. Within no time at all she got herself so worked up that DH felt he needed to take her out of her highchair and take her quickly to the sink in case she was sick. Fortunately this time she wasn't.

Any advice on how to handle this?

We do try and distract her where we can but she also - at some point - needs to learn that she can't always have what she wants, when she wants.

My 16mo is very like this. I've had to learn to tell her what is coming and not just do it ie, Ok now we will sit in your highchair, what good sitting you are doing, etc. Not a magic cure Hut it helps. As does trying to make her in charge eg ok so shall we have lunch? So shall you sit in your chair? And to get her to let go of things we say bye bye phone (for eg) and wave at it... I think she likes saying bye so she joins in!

The "bye bye" thing might work and whilst I really like your suggestion of letting her think she's choosing I'm not sure it'd work as she's too young to reason with

Give her something else before you take the I-phone away. She's probably still a bit young to 'learn' discipline. She's just upset when things change abruptly.

That's what I thought Taler and I felt stupid at first but she did respond well. I noticed that nursery etc were telling them what would happen next even when they were babies. Worth trying anyway!