Difficult to know how to start this as never posted on here before but am at breaking point. I have 4 children aging from 18y to nearly 2yo. I split with the elder 3 children's dad 5 years ago for many reasons. He has never helped out with either money or time and has now stopped being able to see his children at home after he got drunk and started to shout about how he was going to kill himself in front of them all. I was unaware of how often he drank as the children protected him but now they are all angry with me for not letting them see him at his house.
Yesterday things took yet another turn for the worse when my 11yo son called me a F C* when i asked him to find the homework book he had hidden in the morning so he did not have to take it into school.
He even lied about where he had hidden it. He steals food and sweets all the time and has no guilt. He has stolen from my bedroom and every hiding place i can find and will swear on my life he has not stolen then eventually admit he has. I am at my wits end. All his teachers say he is wonderful at school and only a few friends have seen him behave how he behaves most of the time at home.
The punishments of banning use of things he enjoys just seem pointless. After his vile outburst yesterday my partner took his play station and television out of his room with the instruction that once he starts to do as he is asked rather than his usual "opposite" behaviour or blatent ignoring and repeating his demand,s over and over and over again until someone shouts at him, he would earn it back over time. His response was " so if i listen today i get it back tomorrow?"
This morning it was as if nothing had happened. He shows no remorse or guilt and like i said earlier i am at my wits end i do not know who to turn to for help or advice. I don't know anyone else who has this experience. I am lost.