new baby has upset 2 and a half year old.

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Dd2 is nearly 8 weeks. Rocky start as a bit early so we were in hospital for a week. We get home and dd1 starts not wanting to go to bed when previously having no trouble. Only issue we had was since 4 months she would only sleep in her buggy for naps. Have sorted the settling to bed but now she is waking at 4.30 5ish crying for me and wanting to get into bed with me and dh. We take it in turns to put her back but last night she got so worked up she was hyperventilating and it took ages to calm down. By this point dd2 needed feeding and dd2 feel asleep on the landing.
I know she's waking because she's hungry as she's not eating her dinner and going through the no stage. She also speech wise a bit behind but HV isn't worried. But she's frustrated as she can't always communicate her needs.
Really exhausted and don't know what to do. Please any advice as iv previously suffered pnd and I'm trying to stop myself going under again. Sorry for typos I'm typing while breastfeeding dd2.

*dd1 fell asleep on landing.

I don't know if this suits you but have you tried just letting her kip in with you for a while when she wakes up? She's had a big upheaval, and probably just needs the security a bit more at the moment. These things don't last forever.

I'm afraid to say this seems entirely normal to me! Having had a super sleeper. My DS 1 started waking up once his little brother arrived. We did super nanny's rapid return with Dr having responsibility for him and I had the baby. It took about 3nights, then he sees back down with the consistency of it. We also had to put a staircase gate on his door to actually keep him in his room, and having been dead set against them it really helped. Hope something in there could help you. to keep you going today

Thanks for quick replies, stair gate is a good idea. We did have her in our bed and put her back but doesnt always work and not much room in our bed, me and dh are tall and there just never seems enough room! But I want to comfort her, its heart breaking! Will talk to dh and see what he feels comfortable doing too.

It was hard, but IMO S well as comfort they also need to know that you are still consistent and secure and they can rely on you to keep things 'normal', and then the extra sleep they start getting back to normal l round