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How many times a night does your one year old wake or feed

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littleraysofsunshine · 06/02/2015 21:46

My little boy is breastfed and eats well most of the time. The past two months he has been unsettled with sleep. He's never slept through, but use to do like 7-12 then until 4/5.. Now he wakes a lot more. Sometimes for milk, sometimes just for a cuddle.

I'm right next to him in the cot so I think I disturb him even if really quiet. As soon as my head hits the pillow he is stirring.

I love the extra hugs but I am so tired lately! I tried to go to bed early tonight but he must have sense me and woke up.

We sometimes offer like a small amount of cows milk to see if this makes any difference and it doesn't.

That's when he takes it. He really doesn't like the milk in a bottle. He'll drink water but such an effort to get going. I just thought to add to his bedtime to offer a milk bottle if he wakes around 11 when I usually go up but he doesn't take at all. He's my third, and I know my girls never started sleeping all night until around 13 months and I know each one is different. I'm just not sure how I can help him sleep longer periods.

And just to put it out there, I do not follow CIO routines. I see to them when they are seeking comfort, I'm just wondering how I can help him be either more comfortable, or if any other factors can help.

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ch1134 · 06/02/2015 22:40

Not sure I can help but in answer to the thread title... 0-1 times at last! He started sleeping through at 11 months and I stopped breastfeeding at 12 months. Now he will either go through (7ish-6ish) or wake at 2ish, in which case I've taken to bundling him into our bed. Not ideal but I suddenly can't face broken nights any more. And I love waking up to find him next to me...
He went quite suddenly from waking twice a night to this pattern. Nothing we did to help.

fizzyvimto · 07/02/2015 18:11

Probably 3-5 times at that age. I ended up night weaning DS at 19 months as I was back at work and couldn't cope with it any more. Once night weaned, he stopped waking so much and was pretty much sleeping through the night within a few weeks.

WhatismyLife · 07/02/2015 18:14

My 18 month old co sleeps and is bf. He wakes up hourly and feeds every few hours. I'm going to night wean him in the next few weeks. I did the same with DC1 at the same age.

MillyMollyMama · 07/02/2015 19:48

When mine were 1 - never. This is an answer to both the questions in your title. If you keep disturbing him, you have only yourself to blame!

abigboydidit · 07/02/2015 22:23

Never am afraid. BF DS but he stopped night feeds at 3 months, DD at 4.5 months. Obviously they woke occasionally after that but settled after a cuddle.

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littleraysofsunshine · 07/02/2015 23:35

We are moving to a bigger place soon so could try putting him in his own room or with his sisters.. I just worry he'll get cold!

I feel guilty about offering cows milk on top if my milk as he really doesn't seem to take well to it...

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littleraysofsunshine · 07/02/2015 23:36

Not often yet, but I did with my girls and they took to it at 13 m and 15m after weaning from the breast. But each time I feel guilty. Why? I'm not sure.

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fizzyvimto · 08/02/2015 10:33

I would just offer water at this age if he wakes in the night.

fizzyvimto · 08/02/2015 10:35

But then my son was never keen on cows' milk.

Tangoandcreditcards · 08/02/2015 10:38

My 1yo (FF). Wakes 3-4 times in the night (normally quite quick to settle unless after 4-5ish when we usually end up putting him in the big bed. But we stopped feeding him at night 3 months ago.

bimandbam · 08/02/2015 10:40

My ds is 14 months and bf. Sometimes he will go 7am until 4am but that is a really good night. Most nights he wakes 2-3 times a night.

We moved house in November and he.does sleep better now he is in his own room. Could you move him further away from your bed so still in with you but not quite as close?

disneymum3 · 08/02/2015 19:35

DS2 is 15m (FF) and will sleep through from about 9pm -6/7am. Has slept through since 8m.

Glossyflower · 08/02/2015 22:37

DD was bf and slept through from about 5 months. In her own room at 4.5 months and made a huge difference.

NickyEds · 09/02/2015 10:13

DS doesn't wake in the night (13months), and hasn't since we night weaned him at 11 months. I'd just offer water at night and move him into his own room if you think you're disturbing him.

CobbOnn · 10/02/2015 18:55

Back at work at 9 month, off the breast at 10. Doen to1 bottle at 5 am ish. 14 months started sleeping through, on and off. It took a whole term of nursery to get him to sleep 12 hours. We co sleep tho, so often have cuddles. I think he would wake for a cuddle if we weren't already together.

acattocatchat · 10/02/2015 19:45

DD BF and cosleeps. Not entirely sure as I don't really get disturbed by her night feeds but I think around 5 times between 7 and 7. Most of those are in the hours before I go to bed, she sleeps much better with me beside her.

spaghettisue · 10/02/2015 20:42

My ds (bf still at 16 months) dropped his middle of the night feed at 10 months and his 11pm feed at 12 months.

To be fair I think he does wake a few times in the night, has a little cry then self soothes within a couple of minutes. I only hear him if I am going to the loo etc.
I think being in his own room has helped all of us. I think otherwise I would hear every whimper and could end up getting up loads.
He does have a blanket to self soothe with.

CPtart · 10/02/2015 20:51

Neither of mine woke in the night at all after 4 or 5 months (illness aside). However I stopped bf at 3 months each time and never ever ever co-slept. We encouraged reliance on teddies and blankets for comfort, and we all woke well rested. They are now 12 and 9 and don't appear too damaged by my negligence

laura0007 · 11/02/2015 20:06

Never unless he's ill. And definitely wouldn't feed him in the night. I haven't done cio or cc or anything like that but I just dont panda to him in the night.

graceM · 11/02/2015 20:10

A one year old child should not really need to wake nightly at this age. All three of my children were breasted yet they were all sleeping through at around six months, Nutritionally they would not need a breast feed during the night.

ElphabaTheGreen · 11/02/2015 20:32

Two terrible non-sleepers here (and no, I have never 'pandered' to them ) there was simply no other way of settling them other than co-sleeping and BFing.

12-14 months - DS1 was awake for a feed (BF) every 1-2 hours, every night. Absolutely nothing else would do. Wouldn't take a dummy, a cup or a bottle, and certainly wouldn't accept DH. I even resorted to CIO He screamed for two hours followed by forty minutes of sleep on a repeating cycle, every night for five nights until I couldn't stand it any more. The whole horrible experience made him worse. I even tried CC and gradual withdrawal to the letter more than once and nothing changed.

14-17 months - I fully night-weaned him while co-sleeping all night, every night. Still awake at least four times a night.

21 months - worked with an amazing gentle sleep consultant who helped me stop him co-sleeping and got him into his own room. At 2.8y we still get one (or more) wake-ups most nights, and he'll occasionally end up in bed with one of us, but he's MUCH better.

DS2 (6 months) is headed exactly the same way, despite having never fed him to sleep, encouraged comfort toys and blankets from day one, white noise, dummy, swaddling blah, blah, blah. He's booked in with the same consultant starting in two weeks, thank goodness!

NorahBone · 11/02/2015 22:18

15m and usually wakes for a feed between 1-4 after going to bed at 9. He wakes between 7-8 and I normally put him on snooze by feeding him again. He sometimes wakes at other times but settles himself without any input from me. His cot is next to our bed as we have no other room to move it to. I'm happy to feed him a couple of times as otherwise I think my supply would dry up.

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littleraysofsunshine · 21/02/2015 07:14

My little chap has been waking every hour this week. Doesn't self soothe, likes a hug or nurse... We've never done CIO with any of our kids, the girls started sleeping through at around 12-13months as cows milk was introduced along with breastfeeding. He stirrs a lot more than fully wakes up but he won't settle on his own.

He is in our room right next to me in the cot which is a factor.

He just seems hungry, or in discomfort. This morning he finally woke up 100% at around 6:30 dos a poo and just wants breakfast. (Porridge)

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littleraysofsunshine · 21/02/2015 07:19

Separation anxiety is a lot of it too. He loves to be near me all the time in the day at the minute but I know that's a phase and I don't want to wish it all away as they're only small for a short time. My girls adapted.

But I don't think he is keen on milk from a bottle. At all. So not sure what else to try.

Will not do CIO*

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littleraysofsunshine · 26/02/2015 06:49

Tired! He seems hungry as his tummy is grumbling each time he wakes. He's refusing dinner mostly at the moment so we give a little porridge then a breast milk before bed some nights. Not made any difference as he's still waking "like a newborn'

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