Keeping child in own bed

[Marshah72]

Hi, I have a 4 and half year old boy who is very head strong and just won't stay in his own bed through the night. He goes down in his bed no problem but 2 hours later he is up and standing next to my bed, I then lead him back to his own bed. This is done upto 4/5 times a night. He is then grumpy in the morning and obviously so are we! Does anyone have any tips to keep him in his own bed. We don't let him get in with us and he seems to be constantly seek some sort of attention, ie runny nose, wants medicine really any excuse to just come in to our room during the night. Apart from getting a lock on our room, which I don't really want to do I'm running out of ideas.

I only know the same theory as you,
Is say just keep taking back to bed, don't even make contact with him lead his to his bed and then leave again. Every time but no contact!
Maybe you could do a star chart where at the end of a week he gets a surprise and if he does a month a bigger surprise?

Do you lead him back to his own bed and immediately leave, or do you stay in his room till he's asleep?

I had something similar with both my DC, in varying degrees at different times. I understand that it's hard.

I second the idea of using a reward chart. At his age he'll understand about punishment and reward, and I'm sure there are treats he'd love as a prize.

Remember though: he isn't doing it trying to be bad, he just needs comfort and that's one way he knows how to summon it. My son is similar too (5 year old).

Hi. Been there, done that, with both my daughters. It's horrible isn't it?!
How long has he been doing it? You're doing well with sending him back every time, well done!
He will soon get bored of it if he isn't getting the attention he wants. It might seem awful and never ending but it'll stop soon. Carry on with what you are doing. Hope that's a little reassuring for you.