Three year old - school says can we put a 'plan in place'

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The teacher today has said he won't focus, hurts other children.

As long as I can remember we have had behavioural problems with him but after Christmas at school and at home it was as if he'd turned a corner and just was so much better generally.

School picked up on this too and he's been heaped with praise.

However teacher said today it was just one week after going back that his behaviour was okay - and that since then she's struggled with him.

I can't understand why it's not been mentioned before.

She's said nothing 'sinister' was the cause - her phrase not mine. And could we please chat to put together the plan in readiness for Reception.

Any help, advice or support appreciated.

My ds was inclined to lash out at preschool age. The preschool went through a stage of not telling me every time because "they could see I was stressed". At the time, it was fine, but actually I don't think it was helpful, because I was telling him "well done for being good" when he hadn't been. So I would go and ask them to let you know each day whether it's good/bad/neither.

Now has he had his hearing tested? Don't just say "I know his hearing's fine" as a lot of parents say that in bewilderment after they've just failed a hearing test. I know I did (ds has glue ear) and hadn't picked up on that he was lip reading.
In fact, even now (he's 7yo) there are only subtle signs that mean I know he can't hear. Not responding/hearing is not one of those as we all know children have selective hearing.
Worth going to the GP, asking them to have a look in his ears and asking to be referred for a hearing test as "preschool have raised concerns". It can have quite an effect on behaviour.

Them wanting to put a plan in place is very positive. That means they are trying to help him come through this as easily as possible. It's much better than him just being labelled "the naughty boy".
I imagine that what they will do is talk through how they will respond to him lashing out, and explain how you both together can work on his focus.

Ds now is in year 3, and when I asked his teacher how his behaviour was at the last parents' evening (new school) she looked at me all and said "fine" in tones of why on earth are you asking. I wouldn't have believed that response possible up to the end of year 1, and even some of year 2.