Snatching and pushing in Reception

[northerner]

This is the feedback we got about ds at our first parents evening. Whilst there was lots of positive stuff - he's bright, confident, popular, happy and chatty he is sometimes a bit too confident and very strong willed when it comes to getting what he wants.

They have a thinking chair at school which he will sit on when ever he makes a bad decision and pushes/shoves etc. Today he snatched a train track off a very shy little boy so had to sit on the chair, he didn't tell me this though, his friend did.

The teacher has said if not nipped in the bud he may be labelled 'the naughty child' and this is how bullys are made.

I am quite concerned on how to handle this. Any advise appreciated. I don't want him to be labelled.

Also he has sat on this thinking chair quite often, some others had never sat on it and would be mortified to do so. He doesn't seem to care.

Hmmm. Tough one. Can you play "sharing" games at home so it kind of teaches him how to ask for things nicely (Mother May I?) and how it's nice to be polite and wait his turn?

BumpingUpMyPOst

'Thinking Chair'?? Is this like the schools version of a naughty step then? TBH I'd be quite upset with that.
DS1 is in reception and I've already had to speak to teach twice about him fighting with another boy - 6 of 1 half a dozen of the other I'm told. They sit them down and talk about it rather than making them sit by themselves and think about it. School seem to see it as them just 'finding their way as it's a big step for them' and that's how I'm viewing it. Talk to DS but don't nag him about it, he's still very young and doesn't know all of the rules yet.

thinking chair works really well in reception I think

its not a 'naughty' place its a 'thinking' place .. think about how you could act otherwise

I would recommend talking to DS about choices .. and how in any situation he has choices to make .. some are right .. some are wrong .. ask him to think through what the right choice would be

I wouldn't worry about him not tellin you anything though .. pretty standard

also the labelling of 'naughty child' and this is how bullies are made is a bit OTT IMO

Do they talk things over with them as well as the thinking chair then? If it were my ds and they stuck him on the chair he'd just be gawping about planning what to do next rather than thinking about why he was there in the first place!
Agree with twig in that the bit about bully's etc is OTT.
I think the key is talk and keep on talking.

I'd be wanting to know what else the school can do to help him - ie positive re-inforcement of good behaviour rather than the time out approach.

Do they have 'golden rules' for behaviour? our school have rules which all the children know about making sure playtime is fun for everyone and how to make that happen.

Discussions about sharing and being friends can also be tackled at circle time.

At home I would be praising him to the skies when he shares and plays well with others or shows consideration or kindness.

Yes it is their version of the naghty step. Kind of time out thing. They do talk about good choices and bad choices.

Dh thought the bullying comment was a bit ott.