3 year-old wetting herself ONLY at nursery

[yummymango]

Hi, I wondered if anyone had any advice or experience of this. My daughter is 3, she has been toilet trained for a year now, and dry at night for more than 6 months. Recently she has started wetting herself at nursery. I think 4 or 5 times over the last couple of weeks. This is unusual, she doesn't wet herself at home or when we are out and I don't have to remind her to go to the toilet, she tells me or her Dad when she needs it.
Obviously we have talked with the nursery who normally say she did ask to go but it was too late by the time they got there. We are not there so we don't see whether they take her straight away or not, which we tend to do at home as she does leave it until the last minute. She has ruined several pairs of shoes now.
They don't seem to be overly concerned but it concerns us as she doesn't do it at home. Not sure if she is just distracted, whether she doesn't like the toilet at nursery or something else. She says she doesn't know.
It's just strange as she has been at this nursery for 2 years and it's just suddenly started happening.

Has anything about the loos changed recently? Our dd was fine at home but had constant accidents at preschool. Eventually we discovered she was getting to the loo in time but just not able to get herself onto the loo quick enough in the right position so ended up thinking she was on the loo but actually weeing on her trousers.

DS went through this too, and it turned out he was scared by a display of 'magic mirror' pictures done by the morning class and he didn't lik walking past them to go to the loo!

They were genuinely quite creepy, black and white images of sad lookin children behind perlescent film!

I finally got this out of him after a week or so of accidents. I find bedtime to be a great wee window for finding out what's going on in his head!

Best of luck, it's hard seeing that tell-tale carrier bag hanging on the peg!

My ds weed his pants twice at nursery, and I got asjed if he was toilet trained even though he had been there for well over a month and never had a problem befor! As I soon found out he was simply getting too wrapped uo in the activities and thinking that he would be ok to leave it a little bit longer! After a couple of days of the staff reminding him to go to the toilet he was back to normal.

Thanks everyone. We talked last night. She said she doesn't like the toilet in that room because it's got a black toilet seat. I'm not sure if this is the real reason or not as I have often have to really provoke her to get any info out of her. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for no plastic bag of clothes when I pick her up later today!

How did it go op?

Well she had Thursday and Friday all day with no accidents, hoorah. Although she was in a different (usual) room. The nursery are being lovely about it and also trying to figure out if there is something about the toilet she doesn't like. Hopefully it's nothing serious and she is over it now. Thanks for asking fattymcfatfat!

Thats good then. Hopefully she keeps dry now and it was just a bit of a phase

My son had a phobia of black toilet seats for about 6 months. He did get over it eventually, but before that he refused to wee at nursery at all.

My daughter has been out of nappies for over a year, still occasional accidents but rarely. She only wets herself where she knows it's "safe" to do so: in our house, grans house etc never in sainsburys or in her bed for example. She can control it fine I think she is honestly just being awkward. Anyway she started nursery few weeks ago and has wet her pants most days. She loved nursery and is perfectly comfortable using the toilets there, don't know what's the matter? I know it's not helpful to scream at her but I'm really getting annoyed and not sure how to deal with this.