lady got a big bum........

[hollys1mum]

my dd (2.5) has taken to commenting on peoples bits and bobs. walking behind a rather large bottomed lady who had squeezed herself into some leaving-nothing-to-the-imagination beige trousers, holly declared at the top of her voice 'mummy, lady got a big bottom' she keeps doing it in public places (bus, macdonalds, park) and her new one is 'she/he got a big belly'. now, do i tell her off or not? she really only does say it about people who are rather large so is essentially being honest but i get soooo embarassed!

My dd pointed to a rather haggard looking lady on the bus once and said 'oh mummy there's a witch on the bus'
I was so

I would say firmly 'it's not nice to say that' to her. Yes, she's being honest but she also has to learn she can't be rude

Older lady at Sainsburys helped me with second trolly to the car - ds (3) said to her 'you're very old, you should be in a wheelchair'

Kids are very literal, but thank goodness they catch up on social manners LOL!

My ds is a bit older but never outgrew this, so repeatedlys ays things like Nanny, haave the worms eaten great nanny in her hole (grave) yet?

the biggest problem i have is not laughing, as most comments he makes- well they're true aren't they? X's Mum is fat; so and so is smelly. I just have to remember that there's no jusgement there for ds in the way there would be if I said it. And of course, DON'T LAUGH

I was in Sainsbury's with my two dd's (one nearly three and one a couple of months old at the time). I found the shortest queue and the person on the checkout was a man dressed as a woman, to me it was obvious, but I never thought dd1 would notice it was a man, I unloaded my trolley and my dd1 said in a loud voice, why has that man got paint on his face? obviously refering to his make-up. I didn't know how to react so carried on unloading the shopping and ignored her, but the man behind in the queue kept laughing every time she said it.

When one of mine make these sorts of comments I usually say something along the lines of everyone being different shapes, sizes, etc, and divert attention by asking the LO about the fiffrernces within our own family.

Once, before I had children, I was dressing in the swimming pool changing room, lobster all over after a really good sauna, and a little voice pipes up from behind me, "Mummy, why does that lady have a red bottom?"

My little brother, years ago when he was about 3, had never seen a black person before. When my best friend at school called over (who was very dark skinned) he answered the door, screamed ''AAArrrggghhhh a monster!' and ran away. I had to have a little chat with him after that!

I would just be matter of fact about it - eg

well some people are fat, others are thin, some are tall, some have black hair - there are lots of different things. But sometimes people don't like other people commenting - so maybe if you have questions like that ask them quietly - or after they have gone - you wouldn't want to upset them would you ?

Hahahahahahaha! Felching.

I made the mistake of commenting that I was fat (not really - size 12) in front of my neice, then 7 or 8. She piped up, "you're not fat auntie.... you've just got a big bottom!" She's now 11 and is getting better at tact - but not much.