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Bad Separation Anxiety in 3 YO DS

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ladyflower23 · 22/01/2015 20:07

I am feeling really down about this and hope someone can offer me some advice as am feeling a mess and just don't know what to do. He has been going to a CM for over 2 years and has always been fine. A couple of months ago, he started getting anxious about going there and also his grandparents who he previously loved! I think it has been caused by ill health. Basically he has had a lot of colds since September and had 3 episodes of viral wheeze where he has had difficulty breathing. During one of these episodes, his dad had to go away for a week and DS ended up in hospital. It was quite traumatic for him, although I stayed with him the entire time. Its since then he has hated to be away from me and said to me over Christmas that when mummy and daddy go to work he gets ill. I explained this was not the reason he had been ill and he seemed to accept what I said and is now happy to go to his grandparents again and was getting better at the CM, but now has just started preschool 3 weeks ago and this has sent him backwards again. He says he does not want to go to either CM or preschool, asks me the night before what we are doing the next day and gets upset about it then when I drop him off gets really hysterical and has to be prised off of me. I took a couple of weeks off to stay with him at preschool to try and settle him in but have now had to go back to work. He just wants me to stay there with him and at the CM where I have never stayed with him! He has been crying on and off and asking for me at both, which again is something he had never previously done at the CM. Worse is to come as I am having his first sibling in March and I just cannot imagine how he will cope with another upheaval. I am just a massive hormonal wreck and don't feel like I can cope with how upset he is getting, but cannot think of a way to help him/resolve the situation. Does anyone have any help/suggestions/advice for me? Well done if you made it to the end...

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NooNooMummy · 22/01/2015 21:24

Hello! Poor you! And your poor little guy! I don't have any answers. I just know that he's v lucky to have you - you obviously care so much for him. Look! You're on here trying to find an answer to help him not be upset. Just having a mummy like you gives him a real advantage, I'm sure. Hopefully, someone who knows more about these things will be along soon with words that are more useful than mine. I know how you must feel - I started another thread here looking for reassurance about my little one's clinginess. Good luck!

bettyboop1970 · 22/01/2015 21:41

Poor little chap. From what you have posted, it looks like his separation anxiety started after illness and hospital admission. Perhaps see if your GP can refer him to a specialist for help. Good luck, it is so upsetting to see DC frightened and anxious.

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