Persevere with no nappies at night, or just give up for now?

[SusieSusieSheep]

DD is 3y10m and has been dry and clean during the day for about a year and a half. She took to potty training very well, but was still having wet nappies during the night.

Last week she began insisting that she was a big girl and didn't want to wear nappies during the night time. Her nappies were not that wet, but were also not bone dry at this stage.

We decided to take off her nappy at night, and the first night was a success. However the in following two nights she has wet the bed. I'm just wondering if it is worth persevering with this, or should we go back to nappies for a while? I know there isn't a right or wrong answer, but it's a tricky one because DH thinks that her 2/3 failure rate means that she isn't ready but I wonder if she "needs" a few failures in order for her to improve, IYSWIM.

She can go to the toilet by herself but I think she is reluctant to do it at night, so I am thinking about putting a potty in her room.

TIA

Why not put the potty in her room and then reconsider if that doesn't work?

Being dry at night relies on a hormone though, so you can no more 'train' her to be dry at night than you can 'train' her to grow breasts!

Having said that, my dd2 was late being dry at night, but not as late as we thought - i think she was using the nappy because she was wearing it and weed if she fancied it rather than because she couldn't help it iyswim. So the odd time she went to bed without a nappy she weed because she forgot she wasn't wearing a nappy, rather than because she wet herself.

dry at night - anything from baby to 7yo is normal.
but her back in nappies and give it another try if she's dry for more than a week.
in addition give her lots to drink during the day.

Thanks for the replies, we are going to put a potty in her room and try for a few more nights before we give up.

Back in nappies. The expectation for dryness can cause great stress and anxiety and make things much worse. It sounds like you did this because you wanted her to be more grown up but she wasn't ready.

And remember, this isn't about willpower or training through failure. It hormonal. No hormone = wet nappy. Hormone = dry nappy and dry bed.

DD aged almost 5 wasn't reliably dry at night until very recently. We had various attempts at no pull-up but it caused broken sleep (she was waking up wet at 6am etc) which meant tiredness at school, she felt upset about it, and of course all the stripping of beds and washing, especially at this time of year.

We put the potty in her room. Sometimes she made it, sometimes not. The pull-up was on just in case.
Then almost overnight, she was dry. It just took her much longer than others. Don't beat yourself up over it. I wish I hadn't.