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Sudden separation anxiety in child with no 'previous'

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BeggarsCantBeChoosers · 15/01/2015 09:51

My DS has suddenly and quite out of the blue, developed separation anxiety.

He has been through preschool without so much as a look over the shoulder when I left him, and he's been full time at school since September, again, all without so much as a whimper of anxiety.

Now he's clingy and cries before school. When I ask why he doesn't want to go he says it's boring and he doesn't like getting told off by the teachers

I've talked through each telling-off scenario (only little things like walking on the grass when it's wet, which isn't allowed) and he said it had improved now that he understands the rules, but yet still lists it as a reason for him not wanting to attend school.

He has made a few close friends, he's learning a mile a minute, and there are no changes at home, so I just don't get it!

Has anyone else experienced this and do you have any suggestions to best deal with this?

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Queazy · 16/01/2015 18:21

I wonder if he's found the telling off experience embarrassing even if it was only about little things? Have you had a chat to his teacher about it at all. It must be unsettling for you too after he's been so happy and quickly adjusted up to now.

BeggarsCantBeChoosers · 19/01/2015 12:05

Yes I've talked to his teacher and he said that sometimes they regroup as swap friends which can be unsettling, but she hadn't noticed anything and would keep an eye out.

He's spent all weekend asking if he has to go to school?? but I just can't get to the bottom of what's going on.

Is it possible he just won't ever enjoy himself? Do I have to hunker down for the next 11 years and go through this every weekend with him?!

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