Dd 4 in feb massive tantrums when dropped to nursery

[MegCleary]

Been some changes at home I have stopped work and dd doing her 15 hours instead of the 24 she did when I worked.

Her behaviour was occasionally difficult over Christmas tears if didn't want to do some thing. We did 123 etc occasionally on the stairs and if very tantrum dramatic lost a toy for awhile.

Getting a little better but this morning hell. Refused to get shoes on etc nearly made us late do drop dd1 off at school had to carry her out the door.

Nursery drop off mega tantrum I did all I could to stop but in the end I was causing it to be worse. Nursery nurse cuddled her and as we waved at the door and window she was calmer smiling a bit.

Any advice am at home in floods I hate seeing her like this. But she starts school in sept. so we feel portant to keep the routine going.

Important not portant

It's awful when they do this but maybe it's just due to all the excitement from Xmas etc & being out of routine. Hopefully she will settle down again.

Dd went through a spell for a couple of weeks last year when i swapped her from afternoon to morning nursery after summer hols.

Screaming from when she woke up, having to wrestle her into clothes etc, at nursery screaming & sobbing "don't leave me" was hard going but she was fine as soon as I left.

I made sure we did something nice when I picked her up & she settled down & loves nursery now.

Hang in there.

Thank you am feeling dreadful. As you say that Was the longest we have all been together since I went back from maternity leave when she was one. When I was off sick and in the past it was often dh that dropped her off. Everything else in the family and life in general is bliss at present hope this stops soon. None of my strategies seem to work.

Any other advice please

Nursery rang and she having a lovely day. She was very upset after I left and then calmed. She has attached herself to nursery worker and they going with that.

Started again screaming from getting up, I don't want to go to nursery. Then settling then tantrum near door. Massive crying in nursery and then settled and I left. DD1 was never like this we have no skills for it. All I keeps saying is if you don't take a deep breath and calm down, no sparky hair and for nursery. DH really upset me this moring and said to her I would go back to work if she didn't start behaving and she would be at nursery more. I roared at him over that and the. DD1 started crying and the whole family had a melt down. Sigh

Anyone

still happening, not as bad tantrums but still spends the 10 min walk there moaning and then tears as i leave. sigh

please help anyone please this is still happening

My DD does this, especially when there have been changes at home, even quite small changes.

I used to give her lots of cuddles and try to comfort her but that just made it worse. Now I just pass her to the nursery staff and leave, she is fine as soon as I go so hanging about just prolongs it.

I try to distract DD if she is upset on the way to nursery - look at the pretty flowers, who do you think we will see today, isn't the sky pretty etc. Sometimes she still wails "I don't want to go I want my DADDEEEEEE!" all the way, and I do wonder what the neighbours think

I remind myself that she does love nursery once she is there and that I often have to drag her away wailing "I don't want to go home I want to stay at NURSEREEEEE!"

and or for you, it's not easy.

Have spoken to the nursery team they are now swooping in to distract her with a job or activity when I drop off, worked well today.

I sympathise my dd just turned 3 has been having a wobble at nursery, been tantrumming the whole day when there she is getting better but about to start a new nursery so fingers crossed, I have to reassure her on the way that I will be coming back to get her day goes quick etc just distraction conversations!! I am hoping this is a phase!! My dd is a sensitive child and we recently moved home so I think upset the balance!! As long as your dd is settled after you have gone I would say is reassuring! I also think with my dd she will do it as she knows it will create attention and I think hoping I will say ok we don't have to go!!!

Does she ever like going to the nursery? Has there been a change of staff? Just thinking maybe it's the nursery.

Always run in the doors and loved it. Nothing has changed bar me not working and her dropping a day. That is a lot of change but I honestly feels like a habit. She can chat all the way there and it's just as I go she starts. All the distraction yesterday really helped.

Ok, thought maybe it was the nursery but maybe not.
Maybe keep up with distracting her. Sorry not much help. Heartbreaking though to see her upset.