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HELP PLEASE!!

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PferPferPumpkinEater · 13/10/2006 13:47

Ok, last week I posted as DS1 had had a minor scrap at school (in reception) and after being pulled around a bit by some lad had tried to bite him. Was V Angry at DS for biting but poss not as angry as I should've been because he was doing it in self defence kind of.
Anyhow, had teach on the phone. It's happened again, he's nearly broke the skin this time - same boy as well.
When talked to about it DS said that "A" as I'll call him, keeps following him and wants to be his friend but that he doesn't want to be A's friend. That A was pulling on his jumper so he bit him.
I'm so upset with him. We're always telling him not to hit out, if someones bothering you, you ask them not to, walk away or tell a Teacher you never hit out! And yet this is the second time in a week. I'm crying right now as I'm just so upset, I'm not raising my kids to be like this and I can't understand why he's done it.
I'm now going to have to face A's mum again about this and it's not going to be nice. She's ok and in general a boys will be boys kind of mum, but I can't just let this go can I?
DS is supposed to be going to a birthday party later with all his classmates, I can't let him go now can I? It'd be like saying "ok you've been really naughty but hey have fun anyway". My mum says he should go, but I know that if it'd been me in ds's place I'd probably have still been allowed to go to the party but I'd have had a good smack first and DS doesn't get that, so how can I punish him and let him know it's not acceptable behaviour if he still goes to this damn party?

Sigh, please help.

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MamaGhoul · 13/10/2006 13:49

I agree with you - letting him go to the party is sending all the wrong signals to him. If he's been looking forward to it, it will be a real punishment not to go.

Is it a paid-for fun-factory type thing that another child's parents have paid for though? If so, THEY might get peed off at you for not letting him go, when they've paid for it!

What a minefield.

PferPferPumpkinEater · 13/10/2006 13:51

Yup, it's one of these indoor play things. About £3 per kid. I've just about decided I can't let him go even though I'd like him to. I'm going to take the little girls b.day pressie to pickup time and give it to her mum there and apologise for DS's absence in advance.

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MamaGhoul · 13/10/2006 16:31

I think you're doing the right thing Pfer - you need to nip this in the bud (as I think you appreciate)

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