ds 15 months keeps getting beaten up!!

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Ok I exagerate a little, but my ds (15 months) is a bit sensitive and a few times he has been on the receiving end of typical toddler behaviour that gets him upset. A couple of times a friend's son has pulled my ds's ears really hard and pushed him a bit once.

Then today at one of the classes we go to another slightly older boy went up behind him and put his arm round my ds's neck and then tightened it as if doing a head lock!!

The other little boy maybe didn't know what he was doing (he is about 20 months I think) but then again...!!

Both mums were really nice about it but I did find it awkward.

My ds gets very upset by this sort of thing - scared really. I think he has a point in some ways but he does seem quite sensitive around other kids if they come too close or touch aggressively (although he is not sensitive generally)

So my questions - are we in store for more of this kind of thing - do ALL toddlers really do this (I am clueless as ds is my first child)
and is my ds over sensitive or do most toddlers get upset if they are pushed even just a little?

His nursery had noticed he gets upset easily if another child falls on him or whatever.

I'm worried that the confidence he has built up around other kids from going to nursery (very part time) might be eroded if there are too many 'incidents' like these.

And finally how should I react with the mum of the perpetrator!? At the moment i over compensate and say 'oh don't worry they all do it' etc.

Any thoughts?

Avoid the situations if they are continually like this. Find different toddler groups. Still be polite with the mums, but don't go back. Obviously you do get one-off incidents, but if a pattern is forming then avoid it. Good luck and a hug to your ds!

Thanks for your post - this implies that not all toddlers are like this then?! I am so clueless?!

My ds hasn't done this sort of thing to other kids YET although it may well be round the corner and I'll be posting on mumsnet asking how to stop him hiting or whatever!!

I guess maybe they all hit etc occasionally but some have a persistent issue?

I just hope there isn't something about my poor ds being a little over sensitive that other kids pick up on and that he isn't in line for a lifetime of bullying (I was physically bullied at school so am probably being paranoid!!)

Well following this morning's 'incident' it seems my poor love has lost his confidence with older kids.

We went to see his cousin this pm who is 2.5 and would never hurt my ds as he is so kind to him. Poor ds got scared when his cousin went near him.

This made me quite sad as his cousin didn't understand and thought he'd done something wrong when he hadn't.

It's just one of those things I guess and I'm hoping that by tomorrow am my ds will have forgotten all about it when he goes to nursery.

If you can removehim from the situationswhere it has happened, so that heandthe others can forget, children develop so fast thatwhen you go back thingscould beentirely different. Havea complete break, for a couple of weeksat least. Sorry about compoundwords - space bar isplaying up!