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Unhappy 10 week old

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joorla · 11/10/2006 14:41

my 10 week old is constantly crying and has been since about 4 weeks old. she's only happy when she's on my breast - I dont think she is actually taking any milk though, she's just on there for comfort (she won't have a dummy). it's really hard to get her to nap during the day as well as she just cries and cries when I put her down. I dont like to leave her to cry so most of the time I end up picking her up and cuddling her, and she may fall asleep on my shoulder. Any advice of anyone - i'm getting to the end of my tether and my shoulder and back are aching from carrying her all the time.

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MamaGhoul · 11/10/2006 14:43

will she go in a baby sling? It sounds as if she's quite a snuggly baby and I think this is something she will grow out of. Until she does, it might be worth popping her in a sling.

ARe you are sure she won't have a dummy? have you tried different types? My DS had a "nubby" from Boots whcih were v strange but it saved me lugging him about all the time!

Poor you, its hard work isn't it?

mufti · 11/10/2006 14:49

did you see the programme about teenage mums, the "expert nanny", on there got them doing controlled crying.

its hard , i know, ive had to harden myself not to go to him every time he cries, and a lot of the time he does stop after a few moments, it just feels like longer .!
no more than 5/10 mins though as then you could miss
when its a geunine need, they will get to know they can still cry, and you will be there.

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joorla · 11/10/2006 14:49

i bought a sling last week and have only managed to get her in it a couple of times (not sure if i'm using it correctly - no instructions). The first time she was in the sling she fell straight to sleep and I was over the moon, i even managed to take her out and put her to sleep in her cot but since that time I've tried to put her in again and she just cries.

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joorla · 11/10/2006 14:53

mufti - i saw the last 10 mins or so of the program last night.
I do leave her to cry occasionally and go in every 10 mins or so to show I'm still there. Sometimes it works but other times she doesnt stop crying.

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mufti · 11/10/2006 14:59

he tends to cry when overtired in the day, i rocked , and put him down, and hes no sound-o.
does this happen at night too?

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joorla · 11/10/2006 15:04

i think she must be crying when she's overtired. Strangely (but very luckily) she seems to be good as gold at night, goes to sleep about 7 (usually crying) then wakes around 1 and around 5 for a feed and goes straight back to sleep till about 7.

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mufti · 11/10/2006 15:06

i spoke too soon, hes woken,, but happily playing with gym, so i can get on with this important stuff, oops i mean, putting washing on

mufti · 11/10/2006 15:08

if it helps, just remember , they change quickly at this age, at it probably will pass soon

tiktok · 13/10/2006 12:34

Hi, joorla.....I think 10 weeks is much too soon to start controlled crying, sorry, mufti. A 10 week old who cries when not on the breast may simply be expressing a need to be close to mum. Responding to this - with a sling to make life a bit easier - is often less stressful than trying to change the behaviour.

She's bound to want to be closer to you in the day when she is doing so well at night.

It would be worth trying again with the sling

USAUKMum · 13/10/2006 13:56

joorla, it is tough having a baby that cries alot. My two were like this. I ended up carrying them around alot, or just sitting cuddling them singing songs and such. 10wks is v. young, It doesn't sound too much like colic, but maybe she just loves mummy Why not try just devoting a day to her and see if the extra time helps her. This phase doesn't last too long and in a few weeks she should start settling more.

enyfeffer · 13/10/2006 14:38

hiya joorla, I have a 12 week old and i know what you mean about the crying. What has been a god send though are those bouncey chairs that have calming vibrations. My little one always found the movement in the car calming, so i wanted to replicate that. Also I wrapped her up to give her closeness without being held.

enyfeffer · 13/10/2006 14:46

joorla, just noticed your baby's sleeping pattern during the night. We are exactly the same, 1 and 5. Also 1/2 hour naps during the day, about 3/4. Once i managed to get the sleeping pattern sorted and bought my chair, i haven't looked back.

mufti · 13/10/2006 16:35

now i have got the non stop crying, he has had a feed , thought he may go on gym, have picked him up as hes screaming , just not helped this time

luath · 13/10/2006 17:07

Hi Joorla...just read your message my dd is 7 weeks and is very similar with her night and day patterns. I think your wee one sounds over tired and I found that taking her outside the front door swaddled up so we're getting some fresh and air and different noises sometimes calmed her down enough to stop the crying. I then got her inside gave her a bath and swaddled her up and started putting her down to bed about 5:30 ish. She settled using ths shh pat routine in the Baby whisperer but it took a lot of perseverence over several days but it did work and now she naps and sleeps when I swaddle her and do the shh pat thing. Hope this helps! I'm thinking of you!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/10/2006 17:16

10 weeks old is very young to be trying anything like controlled crying.

Its very normal for babies to spend alot of the time crying, and to want comfort. There really isnt anything wrong with this. However, it IS exhausting in the first few weeks.

If your baby isnt happy with sitting in her bouncer/pram etc, then most people find slings an absolute life-saver.

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