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Clingy 2.6 yr old

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RachelRose · 10/10/2006 09:17

My lovely DS is 2.6 yrs. He's always been a mummy's boy sometimes to the detriment of my DH (i.e DS asks for me to do everything with him).

I was made redundant last November and financially needed to work, but couldn't find more part time work, so have had to work full time. I do what I can to see as much of DS as possible and work flexi-hours, but DS has become really clingy to me. If my DH tries to cuddle DS or interact with him, DS sometimes hits him, which my DH doesn't handle that well (i.e he gets upset by it instead of just walking away).

I know compared to some issues on here this is minor, but its upsetting me as I feel so guilty for working full time, but have no choice (except I will ask if I can go part time next year). I can see DS's behaviour getting worse (i. a lot more tantrums than normal) and to add to it DH and I usually end up rowing about it - I sometimes think DH doesn't help the situation as he tells DS off about minor naughtiness which can lead to a full on tantrum. In that situation I try to distract DS rather than make everything a battle.

Anyway, I know I'm rambling - Just wondered if this could be a normal phase or, by working am I creating a problem.

BTW, DS is in a lovely nursery 4 days a week and with Grandparents one day a week.

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sct · 10/10/2006 14:43

Hello, really normal this imo. My ds just turned 2 and is very very clingy esp. if tired. He goes nuts if I use the phone or basically do much that involves anything other than me and him! Could he be a bit overtired if hes at nursery etc? this is often a period of dropping naps etc - maybe try earlier bedtime (not that that would work with my ds) i have noticed that he is worse when hes knackered.
So, no real help but a big me too, and try not to feel guilty, (though its hard wired into us you know) you have to work, hell be fine. DH's in my experience often overreact to this stuff, in fact they often behave in a very similar manner to toddlers. and if your DS sees big reactions going on around him to his behaviour, hell do it more. HTH, take care

izzybiz · 10/10/2006 18:11

My Dd is 2.4 and has started being like this too.

Today she cried when i left her with my mum for an hour, she never does that with my mum normally! She is a real Nannys girl!

Im hoping its just a phase, hopefully it will end soon!

RachelRose · 11/10/2006 13:06

Thanks izzybiz and sct - It helps to know that others have this too (Sorry, I know thats a selfish thing to say ).

Liked your comment sct about DH's acting like toddlers. A few times recently I have said to my DH "You know, you are the adult here!" I know it sounds really self-righteous saying that but sometimes his behaviour is so childish too!

Hope this phase passes for you both too

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