Moving DS from our bedroom to DD's bedroom, any ADVICE please!!

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My DS3 is now 9 1/2 months old. My DS1 (9 years) and DD2 (nearly 3 years) moved into their own bedrooms when they were about a year old.

We only have a 3 bedroomed house so plan is to move DS3 into DD2's bedroom.

Has anyone had any problems with this. Do they seem to settle ok? DS is not sleeping the whole night yet so will wait till he does but I am worried he will upset DD2 sleeping routine.

Shall I just keep him in with us?

I have no idea, but eagerly await the replies because as soon as ds2 sleeps through I am facing this dilemma myself!

Haven't yet done it myself (all this to come!) but have a good friend who moved her DS into DDs bedroom, (when they were very similar ages to yours) even though he'd previously gone into his own room. He was having such trouble settling that she just tried it out of exasperation. She was worried he'd wake DD up but after the first couple of nights this wasn't a problem, and she found that they both slept a lot better. She puts it down to them finding comfort in each other's breathing/presence etc, and now often finds that they've curled up together after one of them woke up, without disturbing her!

Hope it works out so well for you!

Oh, ps, she said the only thing she paid particular attention to was that DD didn't feel like her room was being invaded, so she got her to help choose DS's bedding etc. Good luck, let us know how you get on!

Thankyou scaryboobs, thats a start, good idea about DD choosing bedding.

Anybody else??

bump?

I've read somewhere that siblings don't have the same sense of responsibilty towards each other so they will sleep through each other's noises. Unlike us poor parents who hear every murmur!! I've also read other things that back up scaryboobs' theory about them sleeping better when they're in a room together.

My dcs shared a room for a while when they were 6 months and 2.2 yrs and they didn't disturb each other. They're going back to sharing again next week and I'm hoping the same thing will happen.

You could always try it for a couple of weeks at a time when a few broken nights won't affect your dd too badly and just see how it goes.

I´ve been through this, moving DS2 in with DS1. We waited until he was going through the night (luckily at 4 months), although whenever either of them wakes up, the other one sleeps through anyway. DS1 was 3.5 when they started sharing a room.

One thing that was useful was having the cot up in the bedroom for a few weeks before he actually started sleeping in it, and we explained that he was going to have to look after his little brother in the night.

Our bedtime routine goes something like this now (DS1 is 4, DS2 is nearly 1). After bath, DS2 has bottle then goes up to bed, then DS1 and I have supper and play some games and read a book downstairs, then up to bed quietly, no lights on, straight off to sleep. Door open a bit though, doesn´t seem to wake DS2. Even if he does wake, he seems to realise its not getting up time.

HTH, will add more if I think of anything....!

we put Ds1 and DS2 in the same room when Ds2 was 18 months old and Ds1 was 3. they hardly ever wake each other up in the night, and both settle better, and its much much better if we go away and they are in the same room as each other

they like wearing matching PJs for some reason

when my son was 18 months and hadnt slept through one night, the doctor told me to put him in the same room as our other son who was 2 1/2 at the time.

it took two nights and he's slept through ever since apart from the odd night they all have and when ill obviously.

they do sleep through each others noises alot better than i did as i woke everytime he murmered.

they are now 4 and 5 and they go up to bed at the same time, have a story in bed and go to sleep.they natter for a little while and doze off once im downstairs again.

if one of them stays out for the night at my parents or isnt in there for any reason they always ask where the other one is.

it went really well for us.i hope it goes well for you too. we have no choice bu for them to be in together as we've only got a two bedroom house.