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Is this normal 4 yr old behaviour ???

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Nutcracker · 16/04/2004 16:02

O.k, think i have mentioned before that my 4 yr old Dd2 is quite a challenge to say the least.
I have always had probs with her behaviour and she has always been a grumpy child.
When she was a baby i thought that her behavoiur/grumpyness was due to the fact that she didn't sleep very well at all.
She finally slep through at 14 mths, but her behaviour has never really improived.
I know that most 4 yr olds can be naughty, but it's not really her being naughty that is the problem. It's more her reactions to situations that i find hard to handle.
If we are out shopping and she doesn't get her own way, she will screech at me at the top of her voice and either run off or lie on the floor.
If someone in the street speaks to her, then she will screech again and then refuse to look at them.
On a recent rip to the g.p, an old man spoke to her, so she screeched at him and then threw her self on the floor kicking and screaming.
She crys alot of the slightest thing, for example, my mom tried to wipe her hands after she had eaten chocolate and she cried for half an hour and refused to speak to my mom for the rest of the day. Every time my mom spoke to her she screeched at her and looked away.
Several times just latley i have caught her pinching Ds's dummy too. She hasn't had a dummy in the day since she was 2 and stopped having one of a night at xmas.
She has also on ocasions ran in to the road and pushed her dolls pushchair into the road. Oh and refused to get off a bus.
Am i just being over sensitive or has she got problems ??

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Nutcracker · 16/04/2004 16:05

Sorry, meant to add that she behaves fine at nursery, just quite shy and quiet.

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amess · 16/04/2004 16:18

all I can say is I'm dreading the teenage years (seriously). Sorry I can't offer any help but just good to know you aren't the only one sometimes isn't it!

Jimjams · 16/04/2004 16:24

It depends why she's doing it. If she's doing it to test boundaries or be contrary I would say it was perfectly normal. If however she was genuinely scared by people talking to her, or completely unable to tolerate people cleaning her hands then I would say you need to take it further.

Nutcracker · 16/04/2004 16:32

Umm, well i don't think she is scared of people talking to her. It's more like she's annoyed with them for trying to talk to her. The rsponse worries me most. I could understand her ignoring someone completely or bursting in to tears but she will just screech at them and then hide. She doesn't do it at nursery though.
She is very stubborn and if she is trying to ask/tell me spomething she will not stop until i speak to her.

With her hands, usually she is very keen to clean them, has never liked dirty hands. Suppose it could of been because she just didn't want my mom to do it.

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