Disruptive at pre-school

[moominmonster]

I have just had a worrying chat with my 4 yr old son's playleader she told me that he is consistently disruptive especially in circle time so much so that she has had to separate him from the rest of the class. At home he is an easy mostly respectful child but as soon as he is with other likeminded children he just won't behave and listen. It is so hard to hear that your precious child is labelled as naughty. Should I be worried?

I think some children just take to the idea of sitting around with other children more easily than others. Does he have siblings? If not perhaps he just gets a bit excited by all the other children being about (in fact possibly that's true even if he does have siblings). I wouldn't be overly worried myself, although treats for doing what the teacher says may help - I do this with ds, who's been going through a hitting phase at nursery and it has worked.

Ask your sons playleader to define disruptive. It is a very sweeping statement to make. My DS was called disruptive......... he was shouting the answers out while others were putting their hands up, He was too keen to get the right answer and please his teacher, yet when he was called disruptive i was horrified thinking disruptive meant causing trouble etc. There are so many ways of dealing with disruptive behaviour as there are so many forms of disruptive behaviour. Dont let them categoris him as being disprutive if all he is doing is being keen. You dont want him thinking that he is being naughty.