I know this'll make me sound selfish but...

[Taler]

...I've had such a tough day with my DD :(

Since starting nursery 3 and half months ago she has a PERMANENT cold!

Yes, I know this is "normal" when they start nursery and I know you other mums who have babies in nursery all, I'm sure, experience the same thing. But it's just relentless!!

If she's lucky she MAY go 2 or 3 days without a runny nose! It's just ridiculous!

I guess we are fortunate in terms of it not bothering her most of the time, but some times, understandably, it does and can affect her eating and sleeping! Plus it can make her SO ratty and SO difficult to look after!

How selfish do I sound?!?!

I WISH I had more patience sometimes! How do I get more patience?

I feel really low today, like I'm failing her too :(

You would think the sheer fact I waited 3 for her would give me all the patience I need?!!?

Earlier on I told my DH that anything else I have found tough in my life I've been able to walk away from, for a few hours, a day, a week etc. I'm not saying I want to walk away from her for any length of time, I was just trying to stress to my DH that when I'm finding things hard that's how I feel.

Awful isn't it? :(

I want to end this post though by saying that I love my DD beyond words! I had heard family/friends talk about the love for their children being so incredible, but you can't really understand that until you become a parent. When I hold her and kiss her I feel this rush of love, like all the love I've ever felt in my entire life is there in that moment.

Just wish I felt like more of an adequate mum :(

you don't sound selfish. parenting is soo hard. you sound a very caring parent, if you werent, you wouldn't even care about things like how your patience levels are. we ALL wish we had more patience im sure! im sure you are doing a more than adequate job and just need a bit of support or down time at the minute, which isn't always easy for mums to get.

Btw I left out a key word - "years" - I waited 3 years for her

What you're feeling right now is totally understandable.

If it's any help I came across this sweet little poem, that a mum had written for her dh, to try to help him keep his cool when their dc was always crying. hope whoever it was doesn't mind me copying and pasting

"I'm sorry that I make you mad, When I do it makes me sad. I just don't know how else to say: I'm hungry, I'm tired, I've had a bad day. So please be patient and try to see, It's not so easy to be me. And though I'm just a tiny tot, I really sure do LOVE YOU A LOT!"

That really chocked me up!

See - you ARE great parent then :) Don't be too hard on yourself.

Parenting is so hard sometimes. Don't beat yourself up about feeling stressed.

Your DD will come through this with a stronger immune system - it won't be forever.

And it's ok for you to take a day off or an evening off and forget about everything sometimes. I would say, actually, that it's essential

I have two DSs. Like you I love them more than I ever thought possible. But yes, it's challenging sometimes!

Thank u

I have no doubt you are an awesome mum. It's tough. I have two DC and they severely test me. The nursery cold thing is tough short term but by age 4 and into school she will be bullet proof. One day the snot will dry up and she will never be off school
Sick etc

I agree with Doodle, it is tough now but you will definitely reap the rewards once school comes around and your child is never sick compared to her peers who didn't attend a nursery who will be off with all sorts.

For now I can highly recommend a few drops of Olbas oil on the PJ's top and a menthol plug in like the Calpol one in her room overnight to help sleep.

Stay strong, it gets better and better with every passing year and don't beat yourself up for want to walk away for a few hours/days - parenting even a well child is relentless and a sick one is ten times worse - everyone needs a bit of R&R and personal space - it does not make you any less of a good mum.

xx

Don't worry it is completely normal and acceptable to feel this way. When my ds first start nursery and went from perfect health every day of his life to continuous illness it was a shock and I found it VERY hard to cope. Two years on and it is slightly less relentless but I am just used to it now and doesn't wear me down so much. I am hoping I will reap the rewards when he starts school Iike someone else says because I certainly feel like I (and he poor little thing) deserves it after all the days and nights of snot and other nasties we have endured !!