DS is 2 1/2 & has never slept threw the night I'm at the end.

[justhayley]

Don't no if there's actually any answers or solutions, but I need to scream right now.
My DS is 2 1/2 and has not once slept threw the night - NOT ONCE! He started life as a premie & had to be woken every 2 hours to be fed & have bloods taken etc as he was poorly. When we got home he continued to wake every 2 hours and to this day still does.
Because of this I made the MASSIVE mistake of co sleeping, it always seemed right & not a problem, & as I was breast feeding it saved me getting up and down a million times. I stopped BF 5 months ago & he was totally fine about that.
Last month I moved him into his own room as I have an 11 week old baby who was waking him up.
Tonight I'm in tears!
Every 90 mins or so he wakes up shouting for me. The 11.30pm wake up I go in cuddle him & he goes back to sleep pretty quickly. The 1am wake goes on a bit. I went in he fell asleep after 15 mins or so. 10 mins later was back up, I sat for 20 mins with him he was still awake, then the baby woke so I had to leave him and deal with her. He then started to moan and grown but I ignored it then after 5-10 mins just started to scream the house down. By this point I was pissed off & had no patience & would like to have left him but his noise then woke up the baby again . It's getting to the point where It just makes me really
Angry, I have no desire to comfort him & am losing my patience. My DH is in the military & I'm on my own Monday - Friday. Have been on my own for 2 weeks now actually, so havnt got any nighttime help. In the end iv had to bring DS into my bed as he wouldn't stop crying and it was setting off the baby, & I can't deal with 2 at the sane time.
I used to love him in my bed now I hate it, I feel totally squashed and suffocated & am desperate for my own space - even if it is only when I'm asleep.
I'm in tears tonight & don't know how much longer I can carry on like this.
I can't do any crying methods - I don't like them but even forgetting that as if try anything it's not fair that wakes the baby up and out neighbours children who's bedroom wall is attached to my sons and the walls are like paper.

Anyone got any ideas? I'm literally at my wits end with this now.

Thank you

Ah, that sounds so difficult for you at the moment. Can you rope in a relative or a good friend to come over and help out for a couple of nights so you can catch up on some sleep (as much as you can around your 11week old)?

When you go in to your 2 yr old, do you have to lie down with him for him to fall asleep, or just sit next to his bed? You could try the gradual retreat type approach and try and get further away from him whilst he settles. It sounds like he needs you there to settle back to sleep, every time he stirs from a sleep cycle.

No solutions sorry just sympathy. I have a nearly three yr old and a new born and things only started to improve with her from 2.5 yrs. My only thought would be does he have any food intolerances causing pain waking him? If not then try gradual withdrawal. It has worked at bedtime with my daughter although we still have to go in briefly when she wakes in the night.

It is soul destroying. I understand :(

I can offer sympathy, but not much else I'm afraid. My daughter slept through the night the first time when she was three, and didn't make a habit of it until she was five. (Sorry.)
I used to take her into my bed because it's better than getting up over and over, but I was never a fan of co-sleeping either.

But the good news is that we both survived. She'd still sleep in my bed if I let her. I don't.