Hi, I'm having an absolute nightmare with DS1 who is 4 and just started reception.
He's very big for his age, boisterous, rough and generally barges around but is also loving, funny and adores his little brother.
On the surface he seems to enjoy school. He never complains about going, enjoys the phonics/numbers etc. and is full of chat about it.
However, the reports of his behaviour from teachers and other parents is disgraceful. I'm thoroughly ashamed and at my wits end.
He's had 4 incidents of hitting other children. He has also hit a teacher who intervened in an incident. He has been in time out, sanctions etc.
When he came home from the last incident with the teacher I really went to town on him. I purposefully didn't shout I was calm and firm. I explained ( for the millionth time) that we don't hit, ever. I explained that he's hurting people and making them sad. I got pens and paper and got him to tell me what happened by drawing pictures and went over how it's made everyone feel including him who is now sad as he's being punished. I also made him do a sorry card that he delivered personally to the teacher the next day.
For punishment I took his train set off him and sent him straight to bed after dinner.
I also drew up a reward chart and explained he'd get a little treat every night he's good and a star on the chart and once he's got 5 we can go to the cinema.
The next day he went into school and pushed a boy on his arse as he'd hid in DS1's special hiding place during hide and seek.
What on earth am I going to do?
Trying not to drop feed but as you can imagine there's a lot too this. He has also started waking in the night screaming, wetting the bed which he's never done. He says no one will play with him and no one wants to be his friend, well no wonder if he's carrying on like this. He's being talked about by all the kids and parents.
He's so unhappy and all I want to do is hug him but how can I do that and discipline him?
On a side note the teacher says he is fine during lessons it's during the 1.5 hour lunch break this is all going on. He goes to after school club in his old day nursery for 1.5 hours 3 times a week with 20-25 kids and there is no behavioural problems, not one incident in 6 weeks.