soooo jealous, any tips?

[LittleMilla]

ds2 is 15mo and such a handful. I can just about deal with his short fuse but his jealousy is getting out of hand.

His brother isn't 'allowed' near me and if he does he'll drag him off by his hair. ditto dog, husband or anyone really.

I know they have phases but this has been going on for a while now and seems to be getting worse. he really just sees me as 'his'. this is obviously impacting relationship with ds1 a bit

I work 3.5 days a week and wonder if this makes a difference?

any thoughts or pointers?

Wow - that's tough! He's still very little so getting angry isn't going to achieve anything, but it must be so frustrating!

I'm pretty hard-line on things like these and lots of people will probably disagree with me, but I tend to deal with these issues by ensuring that the bad behaviour achieves the opposite of what it is intended to achieve. So if your DS2 came up and was aggressive toward DS1 I would physically remove DS2 and tell him that if he can't be friendly then he can't join the cuddle.
I probably wouldn't remove him from the room or anything at his age, but I might put him in a playpen or similar until he can agree to "share" Mummy nicely.

I think it's important that DS1 sees you defending his right to Mummy-time too. You don't want the older sibling to feel that you are prioritising the younger child's feelings over his.