18 month terror im soooo embarrassed...any advice please

[NessaWH123]

My 18 month old boy has always been a handful with a short fuse but im looking for any advise as what to do as he is so wearing... he is having terrible tantrums and meltdowns, sometimes every half hour or so of the day.I make sure he isn't hungry and he gets plenty of sleep. It is over everything and many times I don't even now why. We went to an aquarium today he he didn't stop creating, throwing a packet of crisps across the floor, throwing himself on the floor, trying to pull out of the pram etc.... in a café (which we rarely go in because of him and when we do we are there a very short time) he started screaming, threw his cereal snack all over the café, covering other people and the owner had to come to clean up as other people tut.. i was so embarrassed. He is so vocal and aggressive and I think it must be something I have done. I try so hard to keep to routines and set boundries as he is a creature of habit. I don't know what to do next. I dread going out in public. Is there a time he will change this behaviour if I remain consistant as I would dread to think this is long lasting . Any advice .

How is his diet? Does he have any allergies/intolerances?

How do you react when he behaves like this? How you treat the behaviour can make a big difference. My dd can be like this and I've found that if I react to it by shouting, it gets worse, if I'm calm and able to threaten a consequence and then follow through she's much better for the rest of the day. Easier said than done sometimes tho

Hi I try to give a firm no and stay calm Itry my best not t shout but it still often carries on continuously. There was a point they thought he was diary intolerant as he has very sluggish bowels often v constipated but now consultant isn't sure it is . Why do u ask x

I find the Aha! Parenting website usually gives very good advice about dealing with this sort of thing. Here's a link to one of her articles:

www.ahaparenting.com/ages-stages/toddlers/toddler-tantrums

Basically her line is that you need your child to understand that you're on their side and to seek opportunities to connect with them and demonstrate empathy. Tantrums are horrible for toddlers too - I always try to remember that line about how children need your love most of all when they least deserve it.

Lots of sympathy!

Was just going to post about aha parenting when you beat me to it Snowdrop! Brilliant website. Well worth a look.

I'll take a look thanks

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Another bump

I don't understand ismstegosaurus?

She's bumping the thread for you - so it stays in the higher part if the topic lists and you might get more responses.

He's better with routines?

Go out in public less until he's out of this phase?
I am doing that with my dd otherwise it's just all too awful. She is happiest playing at home anyway. I'm hoping someday this decade I might get to go did lunch

*for not did, sorry

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If you're interested in reading recommendations, I found the ToddlerCalm book helpful, simple and straightforward. Second the aha parenting website too

Can you be 100% attentative to him while out and about, talking about whats going on about him

Did this get better? I am in the exact same situation with an 18 month old 7 years later…