Ds (7) behaviour in class

[Flyus]

Hi,

I have been called into school today, for the 2nd time this year, re ds behaviour. Intially it was that she was struggling to get him to focus, this is an ongoing battle with him. He is a smart boy but doesn't seem to have any drive with his school work.

Today was his silliness in class. There is a boy who has been kept down a year (yr3)he has big behavioural issues and I just knew he would be a magnet to ds. Not blaming the other child at all, ds just goes into crazy mode when he is near him. the teacher is separating them in class. I have banned all computer time until I have better feedback. I just feel so frustrated and disappointed with him.

Not sure if anyone can offer any advice I just can't seem to get him to understand the importance of school. Am I expecting too much?

Is this a state school? Just asking because I've not heard of a school near us that keeps a child down a year.

What did the teacher say? Has she given any suggestions?

Do you use behaviour charts? Or a behaviour plan in school?

Can you work with the teacher on a reward system?

For example she puts a smiley or sad face in his homework diary each day, you keep a tally at home (what is his behaviour at home like?) then if he has smiley faces all week he gets a treat at the weekend?

If his behaviour in the classroom is bad I'd expect the teacher to be proactive with ways of keeping him on track. His school behaviour is primarily her problem after all as she's the one who has to deal with it.

Hi, yes it is a state school. The do mixed classes by age and by rights he should be in the class above. It's the first time they have been in class together since reception so ds is a bit in awe at the minute.

She said it was just silliness. He comes off the playground and takes a fair time to settle back down. She has spoken to him today and tried to explained it is effecting his work. She has decided, thankfully to not let them sit together in class and moves ds on his own to get total concentration. She also mentioned a few silly outbursts ie shouting out random things, other boy does this a lot, so I think ds is just imitating to show off.

Hadn't thought about asking her for daily updates, didn't want to take up even more of her time. She is a new teacher but seems very good.

Behaviour at home is fine, the usual having to be asked to do something a couple of times before action and answering back but in the grand scheme of things nothing that worries me, drives me mad yes, but not worrying.

Not sure if I am getting myself to worked up. Ds is on only so I don't really gave any other bench marks of schools expectations or that of my own.

It's early in in the year which accounts for some general silliness and settling in. However I'd want to see behaviour definitely improving by half term and as a teacher I'd be stamping on it pretty hard at this stage, to set up expected standards for the year.

Low level silliness is disruptive and does waste time which should be spent learning. I'm not saying it's a big problem but I'd want to see the teacher using rewards and punishments which she should already have for the rest of the class, and tailoring them or changing them if they aren't effective.

So it might be that his name travels up or down a set of smiley/frowny faces each day and ending the day on a frown means a sanction, or three warnings and then a sanction. But something so that I knew she's on top of things.

If he's fine at home then leave it to the teacher for now, but obviously you'll be backing up the teachers messages at home too.

Absolutely agree with it being disruptive and don't want her to be wasting class time dealing with him.

We have had a good talk tonight and he is aware that I am not happy and v.disapponted. He has written a letter to his teacher to take in tomorrow. Parents evening is after half term so will give him the benefit of the doubt until then and if still an issue we will at that point discuss next steps such as the ones you have suggested.

Thank you so much for listening