3 months out of nappies and still wetting 3/4 times daily

[wintersdawn]

My dd is 3.5 we started potty training three months ago as she was showing all the right signs, first week or so was one accident after another which I expected and things then started to improve.

Now I don't expect her to be perfect and I appreciate that accidents happen I.e. Wrapped up under the pram cover walking the dog in the pouring rain this morning she wet herself and the rain was so loud I doubt I'd have heard her even if she'd asked. But since coming home and being put on the loo whilst I changed her and despite asking her does she need it, I've just taken her to the loo as she hadn't been in 1.5 hours and her pants and trousers are soaked, she tells me with a smile as we walk into the loo my pants are wet.

She knows when they are wet but doesn't seem to care, a lot of the time she seems to start in her pants and then if I catch her in time finish on the loo, but really after this long shouldn't we be past this, shouldn't she know when she's going?

I don't want to put her back into pull ups but I'm having to buy new clothes to try and keep up with the number of changes I'm doing each day. She spends one day at nursery and she is no better there.

Any ideas welcome!

I'm afraid I'm really no potty doyenne, and even ended up posting on here a while ago about how potty training my son had virtually reduced me to tears, but what eventually worked for us was:

1- going back to nappies for a couple of weeks (as suggested by a mumsnetter) and then starting again with a 'clean slate'

2- buying some bundles of clothes cheaply from ebay so I didn't have to get stressed about running out of clothes/not getting the washing done quickly enough

3- his cousin asking her mum loudly in front of him why DS was still in 'baby nappies not big boy pants?' In fact this last point was probably the most useful motivator for him - he instantly wanted to try pants again... do you have any young role models you could encourage to drop such a line in front of your daughter?!

Have some and good luck... it will be worth it in the end

apologies for crappy last line of stating the fecking obvious of 'it will be worth it in the end'... I blame this facetiousness of sleep deprivation due to DC2...

I would put back into pull ups, still take to the toilet every 2 hours or so but no big deal if they are wet in between. I would then buy an old fashioned sweetie Jar ( £2 ish from asda with beautiful sweets in!) as rewards when you start again ( speaks from bitter experience with DS2!) in 2 or 3 weeks.