lifting any tips?

[jollygreenmama]

Who's for and against lifting at night please?

What do you mean 'lifting'? As in picking them up???

Lifting to take for a wee at night...
sorry bit sleep deprived

Do you mean a kid who is out of nappies who half wakes with a need to pee and you go in carry them to the toilet, let them pee and take them back?

If so, yep, we do that, seems perfectly reasonable to me, some nights DD (3) half wakes up when she needs to go, but not fully enough for her to take herself, so just go in and pick her up, plonk her on the toilet where she talks a bit and then goes straight back to sleep.

The alternative is either a wet bed, or her fully waking up, neither seem worth the effort of a minutes carrying.

We were advised by a paediatric urologist against doing it for a child who was regularly wet at night unless we work him up properly as it is said to reinforce wetting whilst asleep otherwise. We did not like to wake them up like that and preferred to wait until they were old enough for an alarm which actually works by waking a child at the same time he or she wets and so creating an association - eventually, if you are lucky - between a full bladder feeling and waking up. The alarm worked well with DS1 and quite quickly but took much longer with our younger ones.

Thank you both. DD has a pull up which we whip off at 10pm when she's had a wee in it. We realised this isn't helping her to go to the loo so thought about lifting. Tonight we're trying prepared bed (bed mats etc) no nappy and letting her wet in the hope that eventually she'll call or just go to the loo before she wets… does that make sense? She tends to wake around 10 and 3 and she doesn't wake because of the pull up security. we're restricting drinks and attempting double voiding (wee count to ten and try again).

I am a 'lifter'. DS1 is an incredibly heavy sleeper, would never wake up, and also couldn't get through the night. rather than the expense and extra landfill of keeping him in pull ups we lifted him until he was 6.5,. when he seemed like he didn't need to anymore. he is almost 7 and very rarely has accidents now.

DS2 on the other hand is dry at night from 3.5, has occasional accidents and I lift him if he has had a big drink before bedtime.
from what I have read and heard it is a physical development stage that they all reach in their own time - generally can't help or train for being dry at night. In some cases you can train then to wake up as had been mentioned with alarms etc, but that wouldn't have worked with my log
how old is your dd?

We didn't lift ds3. We used pull-ups until he became dry on his own around his 7th birthday. He has not had an accident since. We did this because my dsis had tried everything with my dn, lifting, referrals to clinics, bed wetting alarms, restricting fluids and he continued to be wet and ended up being upset and anxious about the whole thing. He was eventually dry at 11 and dsis feels it may have happened long before that without all the stress and even if it didn't at least they could have avoided all the upset for him.

Bumper she's 5.6

We lifted DD1 until she was 6 ..and we had built the bunk beds that day and it dawned on us at 11pm that we weren't going to be able to do that

We had a few damp beds but she was finally reaching the ability to go through the night. Just saved us wet beds really as she refused a pull up.