6 year old picking up 'dirty' behaviour from class friend!

[yawningmum79]

Over the past couple of weeks my 6 year old son has started to show some.....erm, over familiar behaviour shall we say?!

Being a boy he has always thought it was hilarious to give me and his dad a quick flash of his willy or his bum in the passing.....nothing disturbing about that. But for the past couple of weeks we have caught him sitting watching TV either bent over with his pants and trousers down therefore exposing his anus, or lying on his back with his knees at his chest, again with his pants down. I must stress he is not touching anything in that area and he has in no way seen this type of thing in my house or on TV in my house. The only other houses he is at is my mothers or my mother in laws house after school for an hour two days a week.

I caught him again tonight and asked him where he had seen this before and he stated that one of his friends in class does it in the corridor, he says this friend pulls his pants down ( his own, not my sons) bends over, sticks his finger up his bum and then licks it!! My son says no teacher has seen him and when he does it my son says he just ignores him.

Im seriously considering mentioning it to the teacher as i find this type of behaviour disgusting and its worrying in this day and age where this little boy is seeing this or even getting the idea to do it! The little boy in question was born to parents older than myself and he is very spoiled but also quite immature in behaviour. When my son says goodbye to him at 3pm he sometimes tries to kiss him on the lips! I know they are still young but i have to admit i am slightly concerened and not sure what i should be doing if anything. Ive obviously told my son this type of thing is not acceptable and private parts are private, whilst also telling him that this boy is being very unhygenic etc.

Sorry for the long post but I am so unsure what to do, as i say, if anything.

Any advice ladies????

Thanks

Jem

I would say go to the teacher about it. That way they will be able to keep an eye out for this kind of behaviour and talk to the child in question about it. Hopefully this is just boys being boys but this kind of thing can be the sign of something more troubling.

Thanks for your reply Pipbin.

I am hoping its boys being boys but this seems a bit strange and not to mention filthy! Thankfully my son wasnt touching anything or i fear I may have had a stronger reaction! Ive got parents night next week or so so ill have a quiet word with the teacher.

I would report this to the headteacher, it is not usual for six year old children to be so explicit, playful yes, but this is a step too far. The poor boy in question may need some help. Let the school then deal with it.

My advice, as a teacher, is to try and catch the teacher after school or to make an appointment.
For a teacher parents evening can be an information over load and you have appointment times to keep to. If you talk to them outside of that time, or even send a note, then they will be able to give it full attention.

Good point, parents night is always a little hectic and running over time. Thanks for your replies, feel a little better, Suppose all i can do is report this to the teacher and make sure my own son knows this is not acceptable and is not something people find funny. Spoke to him before bed tonight and he knows this isn't appropriate and we will be cross if we see it again.

Kids!!

I would speak in confidence to the teacher because I suspect the friend is acting out something he has possibly seen elsewhere, maybe at home.

Regardless, the school should address the boy's behaviour before it possibly escalates and something occurs that is very awkward.

Reading your post, it strikes me that the friend's behaviour could have been influenced by seeing some sort of pornography -- and I hate to say it, but parents do view porn with children in the house.

It reminds me of an incident at a primary quite a while ago where an eight-year-old boy became very verbally sexually aggressive with a girl in his class. The Head called his mother in and the official explanation was that the parents were going through a divorce, but the content of some of the things the boy was saying pointed to a situation in the home where there was sexual violence, and the boy was picking certain things up from his father.

Eventually, the child was removed from the school. You just can't mess about with this kind of thing.