Hello all, first time poster, as I think there may be a problem with my 4 year old step-grandson. Or I might be wildly over-reacting, so I thought I'd seek advice.
A few months ago, whilst visiting me, my GS whispered 'I've seen people sexing on the telly'. I thought it was odd, that a child that age might watch such adult things, or use the word 'sexing', but as his mother clearly heard him, I said nothing.
A few days ago, I heard his mother (separated from the father) whisper to his Dad 'He came in the bedroom with a 'hard on' and said he wanted to have sex'. They laughed about this, but I found it very, very odd.
Firstly, how does a 4 year old child know the word 'sex' in that context, and secondly, that a penis is for anything but having a wee?
He visits his father at weekends. His father shares a house with a recently released ex-con (I know, I'm being judgemental and jumping to all sorts of conclusions just there). I'm arriving at the theory, rightly or wrongly, that there is adult material on the TV while he's there. And they are allowing him to view it. Encouraging it, even.
What worries me further is that my step daughter has just had a little girl, to the same man.
Her father and I are at a loss as to what to do. Should we do anything? My SD is not the type to take advice easily, and any perceived criticism would mean us not seeing the kids. My GS has only recently started school, so hasn't picked the 'sexing' word up from there. Maybe he's heard older kids talking? Or is it just normal curiosity?
I'd be grateful to hear other people's thoughts on this, thanks.