Babies under 1 month

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How do you get a baby this age to sleep? Normally I breastfeed him and hope he falls asleep or I just hold him and pat him and wait til he's asleep. Then I put him down in his basket. What do you all do? Are they too young to just put down?

I fed mine to sleep til he was about one. I do not recommend this with hindsight!

Does he sleep if you put him down?

I need him to be asleep before I put him down. If he is then generally he will sleep. Tried him awake the other night and he just cried . My other little boy was settling himself by 6 weeks but I can't remember how I got to that point!
I sat there for an hour tonight trying to get the baby asleep and I was just thinking 'is this what everyone does?'

Watching with interest. Mine ether feeds to sleep or goes off when in the sling.

I fed and cuddled to sleep when mine was that tiny and will do again when the new one arrives. He didn't self settle until he was 12 months and then he just decided that that's what he wanted to do, we didn't lead it at all. I know this isn't a good solution for everyone but it worked for us and I definitely think at under 4 weeks old they need cuddles and comfort to sleep. Hope you're not too exhausted and are able to nap in the day :)

have you tried swaddling? might make him feel a bit more secure and like he's still being cuddled? or a dummy?

I remember not being able to put DD1 down for about 10 weeks. Just sat all day cuddling (and watching telly, primarily Jeremy Kyle) :-)

oh... and at night I would spend literally hours trying to get her off to sleep so that I could put her down. swaddling and swinging seemed to worked... by swinging I just mean one hand under head, one under bum and swinging from side to side so I wasn't cuddling and easier to put down once in moses... not swinging by her feet or anything... although the thought most probably crossed my mind

I was rocking, walking, bum patting or feeding to sleep at that age. Dd didn't self settle until she discovered her thumb at about 8 weeks and then it was sporadic until she was about 12 weeks. White noise or turning the hoover on also helped!

How do you get to the point where you can just put them down?

Until 6-8weeks I think you just do what you need to get then to sleep, swinging, feeding, swaddling, dummies anything! After that start to try and sleep train.

Having said that we did start a nighttime routine at 7pm with bath and bottle at like a month.

Around 3-4months he settled down and would sleep through, which I think the routine really helped with.

Mine is almost ten months now, and still just doesn't drop off to sleep on his own! I'm starting to doubt it'll ever happen...

I have a 4 week old. In the day she won't go down unless already sleeping. The Moses basket has a rocking base and she will sometimes be rocked to sleep at night.

routine will help as they start expecting things ay certain times. we always started with bedtime then gradually work backwards through the day. but generally from about 12 wks.

noticing the signs of tiredness will help too and not waiting too long to put them down... easier for them to drop off if they arent too tired & screaming!!

again, gets easier as they get older. putting them down will just happen... older they get the more u get to know them & their ways.

for now just do whatever makes life easy for you & don't worry about routines & things. I will come in time.