Hi looking for some advice, help, reassurance or just sympathy.
My ds starting biting others at kindergarten just before his 2nd birthday. This coincided with lots of changes for him in his life, i was pregnant with ds2, lots of his friends at kindy left, one of his teachers and another carer changed. But generally he is quite adaptable and isnt phased by change and this may just be the result of being a two year old. His 'trigger situations' is always arguments with other children over toys. The bites are always on the hand.
Over the summer as kindergarten had closed he seemed to improve (almost stop) biting others and his comprehension with empathizing with others also developed. This lulled me into a false sense of security and I assumed we had passed/on the way of passing this stage. His general behaviour also improved a great deal over the summer.
He started a new kindergarten this month and it started well enough. Unfortunately he has bitten twice in two days now and I'm feeling like I'm at my wits end.
When he does bite we do time outs. I shadow him on playdates,
I praise and reward for good behaviour. We talk about how we treat out friends, our emotions, what is nice touching/playing and we have a mantra "no fighting, no biting, no scratching" which I know he understands. I feel that he just gets caught up in the arguments he has and does not quite have the self control yet.
I just don't know what else I could be doing to stop this. I said to my dh that next time I see him doing it I'm going to bite him back so he knows how it feels. Although even the thought of this makes me feel bad so god know how I'd actually go through with it.
Help me, let me know what worked with you and how to survive whilst not being labeled and ostracized.