His constant snuggling is driving me mad

[mumofthreebeauties]

Since starting back at school, my DS is snuggling me every morning as I take him in.

He rubs his head against my tummy all the time and it's driving me mad.

Up to now I've turned it into a cuddle and kissed him goodbye, but as soon as I turn to go, he does it again, and again, and again.

I guess he must be feeling insecure in a new class, and I don't want to say no, but maybe I should be stricter and say I don;t want him to do that.

How would you handle it?

Eh???????

Aw. Let him be close to you. It sounds like he needs more cuddles and reassurance generally at this tricky time. Have you got any spare time in the morning that you could spend together before he goes in? A special chat, story and cuddle could make a big difference. My mum used to draw a little cartoon strip of me going to school and all the things I would do there, ending with her picking me up at the end of the day.

Aw!

It doesn't last.

They grow up so fast.

I cherish EVERY snuggle from my DDs.

It's his way of being clingy and it means in the morning his twin gets a kiss and off he goes, does his bookbag, snacks etc all on his own, while I see to other DT.

Sometimes I am in a rush to see other twin before the teacher does the register and I feel he's missing out because he just gets on with it.

I also see lots of other kids just going in with a kiss from mum at the gate.

He is in yr 2 now and I feel he should be able to go in on his own.

Is he tired? Dd does that when she's tired out and it is annoying but it's more of a thud against my stomach and she seems to keep walking into me to do it. This is more when I pick her up from school though and I've learnt with her it's a sign she's tired.

my son is a bit like this too, he has got a bit better at going in, but we still have to kiss, cuddle and shake hands before he goes in.

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Nothing like walking down the street, holding DD1's warm little hand.

This, too, will pass.

And when he's snuggling up to his partner one day, you can look on fondly and htink about how your indulding him in snuggles made it easier for him to show his love and affectino for his partner.

MOTB,6/7 seems to be a very difficult stage for quite a few mums on here at the moment.
I'm having awful problems with mine just now and a few of the mums at school are having niggles with theirs too.
I'm going the 'extra sensitive attention+lots of positive reassurance' route myself.
It's really hard,you kind of expect them to be a little bit more independent and confident yet they are clingier than ever,you have my sympathy.

i think thats lovely.
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And as the others have said,we'll have to beg for snuggles soon enough.

i suppose you could say, 'that's enough snuggles, you won't have any left for later!'. my ds(13 this week!) still likes a cuddle btw!

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DD1 is almost 12 and was never a snuggly child, but now she hardly leaves me alone. I think in her case though it amounts to the fact that if I am cuddling her, I can't be cuddling DD2 who is 9 years her junior. Intense sibling rivalry on her part. She had us exclusively for 9 years, and then had to share our time with another. Cue the clingy behaviour (which has lasted almost 3 years now)

This quote is lovely expat

"And when he's snuggling up to his partner one day, you can look on fondly and htink about how your indulding him in snuggles made it easier for him to show his love and affectino for his partner. "

The reason I don't get cross with him or deny him the snuggles is I think that as a mum, the more I cuddle and encourage their emotional side, the better equipped as men they will be to share their emotions.

Their dad was brought up in a very un emotional houe in that nothing was talked about and all are pleasers and not very assertive. DH has worked hard to not have this environment for our children.

I do love the cuddles and make a point with DD and DT to have lots of cuddles. I love it.