feeling like the worst mother

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OK, so my eldest is 3 and my youngest is 21 months. Already concerned about the speech for my youngest because he doesn't seem to be developing any words other than daddy, ta and car. However my eldest I've only ever been told how well he's doing and how many words he knows etc. He turned 3, 2 weeks ago and started nursery the week after his birthday. Just been pulled to one side and advised to seek speech therapy because they cant understand him compared to the other children in his class (only 2/12 of them started at same time as him). I know I shouldn't feel bad if he needs help clarifying his speech but really feeling like I have done something wrong with him and that he's going to be in doctors appointments because of it. My husband and my family are all very fast mumbly talkers and the entire family can understand him when he talks. Feeling really low about it (know I shouldn't take it personally but I dare any stay at home mum not to) anyone else had this?

Both of mine have had speech therapy, really don't worry about it. The eldest went for his appointment and we were told not to worry at all, his speech was better than most 4 year olds and the teacher must have been over zealous.

Dc2 had 6 sessions. They are assessed and helped through games. They were fun and she was upset when the sessions ended.

You are not a failure, you are a normal mum just dealing with normal stuff. Please give yourself a break

I had speech therapy. The woman-who-sits-next-to-me's 9 year old daughter is currently in speech therapy. Don't worry about it.

Don't worry about it, I'm sure its nothing you've done. It may just be that he's copying how your DH speaks and will only need a few sessions.

Also don't worry about your youngest just yet. My ds2 could only just recognisably say mama, dada, cue for thank you at 21 months. In the last 8 weeks he's suddenly picked up about 20 words and seems to come out with new ones every day. Yet dd2 was speaking in short sentences at 18 months.

All children are different and develop at their own pace. It doesn't stop the worry that you've done something though.

Please don't worry! We had the same thing when DS was in reception. our view was - yes please we'll take all the therapy you can offer!!!
At 10, he was offered scholarships at several very academic schools, and went to the most academic school in the country, where he is thriving.
Take the therapy - no downside!!!

Thanks everyone, feeling a bit better. decided its either gunna be confirmed theres nothing wrong with him or he will come out better from the therapy. still think that 1 week at school with kids 4-6 month older than him is a bit fast to say he's bad at speech like, especially since his actual vocab is huge! and that crazykat feel a lot better about my youngest now (he still wont say mummy but has a cheeky look for it now haha) just came as a shock when we hear nothing but how well he speaks usually.

Glad you are feeling a bit better. Try to remember that this is nothing to do with his intelligence or your parenting