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Struggling to cope with DD

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GingerbreadBabyPlease · 12/09/2014 22:14

My DD will be 3 in November, and while she is a lovely and sweet child for most people, such as my Mum who looks after her 2 days a week, or my DH, she is an absolute horror with me when she is on her own with me, 5 days a week. I know it's just meant to be a phase, and I realise she is testing the boundaries with me, but it makes it absolutely miserable to look after her, our days are just full of screaming, tantrums and tears when doing even basic tasks, or trying to get out for the day to do something fun. She does not listen to me, or do what I ask her to do, no matter how I go about it. I have tried ignoring bad behaviour but she carries on screaming until I have to go to her to try and calm her down.
I just don't understand why she is only like this with me. She is as good as gold for my DH and will happily go and brush her teeth or get dressed for the day. I actually dread having to look after her now, rather than spending quality time with my daughter to bond and enjoy ourselves. Bedtime is a battle, and I have to do it alone 4 nights a week as my DH works evenings.
I am hoping some of you ladies can shed some light, or at least some sympathy on what to do about this situation! TIA.

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TheysayIamparanoid · 13/09/2014 02:13

Didn't want to read and run, I know how horrid it feels, my DD was like this and eventually grew out of it, sorry Sad Flowers

GingerbreadBabyPlease · 17/09/2014 12:34

Thanks for your replytheysay! Good to know I'm not alone, I have seen quite a few other threads on here with similar issues, so I guess it is just a phase I will have to grin and bear!

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spritesoright · 23/09/2014 19:05

My DD was a bit of a nightmare but this coincided with a new sibling arriving so it was difficult to distinguish what was linked to big shift and what was just being two iyswim.
I have noticed a difference from giving her more responsibility (dressing herself, putting on her shoes to go out, helping with small chores). But also, just the fact of turning three seems to have initiated a big shift in behaviour for the better. So hang in there til November?!

I think it's quite common for them to act out most with the person they feel safest with. It sucks though.

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