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2.5 year old pushing and hitting at nursery

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DizzyMilly · 11/09/2014 18:45

Hi all, any comments or advice on this would be gratefully received as I feel quite upset today! My DS (only child so far) has been in nursery since he was 8 months, changing nurseries in January due to relocation. He's been at his current daycare since 20months and started in Jan this year. He seems to enjoy it and has developed well in a lot of ways since starting. The issue started last week when every day for 3 days when I collected him the staff were telling me about an incident of him pushing, snatching, hitting other children, mainly over toys. Even the nursery manager asked to talk to me and asked if anything had changed at home (which it hasn't). We decided to monitor when it was happening to see if there are triggers and I started making sure he was in bed on time every night and also stopped his 1 hour sleep limit during the day in case it was tiredness causing this ( I had started to get rather sloppy with his bedtime on an evening). This seemed to help and we had a few days of calm, until yesterday he hit a child to get a toy (just before lunch so they said he might have been hungry and grumpy) then today when I collected him he pushed a child for their toy but also was exhibiting what they referred to as "strange behaviour" this afternoon, directed at one little girl. He was following her all the time and trying to hug her, he then pinned her against the wall and tried to hug her, making the little girl cry (understandably!). I'm wracking my brains to think why he's starting doing this, I'm worrying like mad that he has a behavioural problem and I just want to get some advice! I also feel like he's the only one doing it but tonight the staff member did say there are a few of them all having incidents to report to parents every night. Is it just a phase or is it something more? He plays nicely with other non-nursery friends and cousins, just as a side note, with the odd push and snatch but nothing major.

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BastardGoDarkly · 11/09/2014 20:56

I'm surprised the nursery are calling this 'strange behaviour' most kids go through this stuff at this age.

My ds was awful for a while! It soon passes though :)

I think you're looking for reasons when there probably aren't any, is just his age.

EstellaSpitsEmOut · 11/09/2014 21:01

I'm with Bastard on this one. This does seem like typical toddler behaviour to me. Although it should obviously be dealt with, I don't think you should read too much into it.

DizzyMilly · 11/09/2014 21:15

Thank you very much, it's reassuring to hear! I think my logical side is telling me it's normal but getting emotional makes me overreact!

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BastardGoDarkly · 11/09/2014 21:23

Of course! Especially when it's your first, I used worry about it, then when dd came to that age I was just like...Oh bugger, here we go again Hmm

ThisFenceIsComfy · 11/09/2014 21:29

My DS does all of the above behaviour ior. Even the enthusiastic overwhelming hugs.

Why would a nursery call that strange behaviour?

DizzyMilly · 11/09/2014 22:05

Ha, that's reassuring Bastard, thank you!
thisFence, I know now I think about it after the comments everyone has made I also don't get why they've said it. It was like they were trying to say DS is weird!!

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