Although my stbxh and I have just started divorce proceedings and there has been domestic abuse since the beginning of the year and took stbxh to court to have him removed from property in June my children a quite challenging at the moment.
Son is mimicking stbxh's behaviour of constanting digging, sarky derogatory comments and winding up daughter, daughter is OTT on the reactions so much so that neighbour came round last night when she screamed as neighbour thought stbxh was strangling me and told daughter to taper her reactions down, and told son to do as I'm told and stop winding up daughter. Neighbour is on good terms with both my children so it was helpful her coming round. I only left the room for 1 minute before that we'd had a lovely evening, everything calm! I left them longer to go to the loo when they were babies!!
Son is on the verge of being assessed for ASD, stbxh's came back for one week and I called the police, he's gone now. I know that they are finding it hard, dd doesn't want to live with stbxh but ds is mixed up with what's going on and last night threatened to tell his dad what was going on in the house. Basically when I came in last night from work, his behaviour and attitude towards me was confrontational and downright nasty, he is very difficult to be around atm and getting worse day by day I'm trying to ignore it and concentrate on the good behaviour (positive parenting etc) but having him threaten to contact his dad when he knew there'd be fireworks was below the belt. This morning he said a new day new ........ like it's all forgotten!
DD was like a bear with a sore head last night after the screaming and ds threw food at her she went to bed wouldn't hug me, she was ok this morning said bye and we said the usual I love you's but really want to sit down and talk to them about last night but don't know where to start.
Does anyone have any suggestions. please. thanks.