I don't know?
He's 4 next week.
This will probably be long, I haven't really spoken about his behaviour to anyone.
I've been thinking about going to someone to talk about his behaviour for over a year and keep going round in circles. I'm struggling with him, I don't know what to do with him anymore but he shows non of the behaviours we see at home anywhere else (kindy & daycare & previously a childminder) so I wonder "is it just me?" So I read and read and try to put some new discipline methods into action but nothing works and so I think about going to the GP again. Like I said round and round in circles.
Ds1 who is 5 1/2 has the usual stubbornness and tantrums that come with age but he responds really well to the "1, 2, 3 time out method" we hardly ever get to 3 and if we do, he's happy to take himself off to somewhere quiet to rest and calm down.
Ds2 is a whole other story. He's 50% gorgeous, loving, funny and intellegient. He's obsessed with trains and can spend hours playing with them so wonderfully. Then he's 50% downright defiant, violent, destructive. If he wants something, he wants it now and will get hysterical if he doesn't. His screaming, flailing, hitting whatever/whoever he comes in contact with, sweeping things off tables and bookcases in anger, kicking at doors can last up to 3hrs. The only way of calming him down is by taking him to his bedroom and holding him TIGHT in a hug on his bed.
Just when I think of giving up, he comes to you with the cutest face and gives you the best hug and kisses you and tells you he "loves you lots like jelly tots"
How can this sweet boy be so awful sometimes to the point I feel like giving up?
I don't know what I want I suppose, someone to tell me I'm doing the right thing? Someone to tell me they understand? Someone to give me some tips I may not have tried?