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how long did it take yours to settle into nursery?

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BocaDeTrucha · 10/09/2014 22:53

Ds will be 12 months in a couple of weeks and started nursery last week. I had him all summer holiday (I'm a teacher) and from 4 months old to 9 months my parents came and looked after him during the day. However he has to start nursery now. Since my parents left he has become really clingy and separation anxiety had been the theme of the summer holidays. Dh has to take him to nursery and after a week and a half he still only manages 90 mins on his own but 90% of that is spent screaming blue murder and always in the arms of the carer.

Since starting nursery he has also become even more clingy, especially with dh as he's the one who is taking the time off work to settle him in and look after him the rest of the day. Some times trying to peel ds from him so I can take him is like some kind of torture ( and really sad for me too).

Please, does anyone have any wise words I can give to dh as he, and I, are starting to feel really miserable about it. Our lovely little fun boy has gone and now we have a grumpy, sad little chap instead.

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plentyofshoes · 11/09/2014 10:34

Dd has just started nursery and it took a couple of weeks for her to settle.
However she gets clingy when she is teething could it be thst too?

WhatsForYeWontGoByYe · 11/09/2014 14:06

Ahh, bless! It's horrible, isn't it? We went through this a few months ago. It does get better after a few weeks - stick at it. We did it at roughly the same age which is, in general, when they can start properly feeling separation anxiety anyway - even if they're not going off to childcare. Even now, 3 months in, there are days when DD doesn't want to go.

As long as you're happy with the nursery, and his key worker is helping him through it, he'll be fine.

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