There have been a few recent threads about 4 yr-olds wetting themselves at school. The consensus seems to be that these are accidents that occur when a child is engrossed in what he's doing &/or doesn't get to the toilet quite on time. But my ds, 4.5, seems to be intentionally wetting himself. Not only does it happen at school, but at other children's houses, in the car, and in our own home, sometimes a few times a day, and often when he's just been reminded to use the toilet. Today, for example, when I went to to collect him from school, the teacher informed me about his most recent "accident" and ds smiled through her whole story then proceeded to wet himself AGAIN right then and there. It's so unlike him. He's shy, sensitive, well-mannered and not at all aggressive. It's a brand new development--has been going on for about a week or 2.
Can stress cause this? We've been in the US for 6 months. He's made friends & developed a life here, & now knows that he will soon be returning to London to his old school etc. He doesn't seem upset about the prospect, & yet he's wetting himself. Any other ideas? --expat
PS I tried to talk to him about it today. At first he wasn't interested in discussing it, but later said that he doesn't want to "interrupt" the teacher and can't seem to hold in the wee. And yet I saw him smile and do it again, clearly on purpose. His nanny has observed the same.