What is normal in terms of speech for 13 month olds

[Mummytoagorgeouschops]

Myself and a friend were comparing notes the other day. We both have DD's, her DD is 11 MO and my DD is 13 MO.

My DD can say around 7 or 8 words and understand a few more. She can say:
Dad, dada, daddy
Mum, mummy
No!
Doggy (sometimes Doggy sometimes goggy!)
Nose (Noooooos and points to either my nose or her own)
Where's dad (she's said this about twice)
There (when she's pointing at buttons she says 'there')
Banana (anana or nana)
Ta

She understands cuddle, kiss, dance, wave and come here but doesn't say them.

My friend seems to think that she is a slow speaker as her daughter says a lot more than this already.

She's got me panicking a bit as apparently the kids who attend her toddler group are saying a lot more words than my DD

No - your DD is perfectly normal. Some babies have lots of words at this age, some only a handful. They are all the same by the time they start school.

Your DD is normal. Perfectly normal.

Some kids race ahead with language. Others are busy racing around generally. My DD spoke quite early, but I know others who didn't say a word until they were pushing 2.

Also - your dd will probably understand more words than she lets on!

Sounds normal to me.

DS2 is 13 months. He 'chats' and shouts a lot, but doesn't have any words. I'm not worried - he understands plenty, and his older brother had hardly any words until he was 2. DS1 is now 4, has a huge vocabulary and started reading when he was 3. I can't get him to be quiet most days!

Children do things in their own time - it all evens out in the end.

Your dd is perfectly normal. At this age there is a lot of variation in what is considered to be 'normal' so although it's hard we shouldn't really compare.

I never even gave it a thought until my friend commented. However she is very much 'whatever you can do I can do better'

Sounds like your dd is about average or even a little ahead. There's such a massive range of what is normal at that age; some ave 50 or more words some don't say anything until 2. At some point between 18 months and about 3 years thy hit a language explosion where they pick up new words every day and start stringing them together in sentences. This is when the gap between the slower talkers (and your daughter doesn't fall into this category) and the chatterboxes tends to be bridged.